THE CUT and WALL STREET JOURNAL: How Young Is Too Young for a Crop Top?

Whitney Friedlander shared in The Cut piece “The Dread of Your Kid Asking to Wear a Crop Top” (N.D. 2025) that her 5-year-old daughter is “obsessed with crop tops”! Consequently, Friedlander is “queasy”, because, in her opinion, crop tops represent vulnerability. Friedlander:

For the past six months, ever since she saw a friend wear one at school, my daughter has been obsessed with crop tops. She’s 5.

The whole idea of my young daughter wearing a midriff-baring tee makes me queasy. It’s not the shirt itself but what it represents. ​​I cannot explain to her why simply wearing some trendy item of clothing makes her vulnerable in ways I never want her to understand 

Friedlander reiterated that her daughter desires to wear crop tops only because her daughter’s friends wear crop tops.  Friedlander:

And the reason she wants them is simple and glaringly unoriginal: Her friends get to do it.

Friedlander asked Lyndon and Carla, her “daughter’s crop-top-wearing friends’ parents”, about their daughter’s crop top, but they claimed that they had no idea how their daughter got a crop top. Really? Friedlander:

I asked my daughter’s crop-top-wearing friends’ parents, Lyndon and Carla, if they recall the impetus for what was clearly a life-changing moment for at least one person. Nope. In fact, they don’t even know how she ended up wearing it [...]

[...] In any case, they said they’d never knowingly put their kids in a crop top and wouldn’t have bought one — not that they’re judging parents who do.

In addition, Friedlander wrote that her daughter became attracted to crop tops because crop tops are a part of the zeitgeist, which hit a “fever pitch” at day camp, where her daughter observed “real teenagers [in crop tops] out in the wild”. [GIF deli]

Even asking my daughter how she learned the term “crop top” came with a blank stare. They’re simply an ingrained part of her world [...] They also hit a fever pitch this summer when she went to a day camp held at the neighborhood high school and saw real teenagers out in the wild.

Casey Lewis, the After School Substacker, shared with Friedlander that, in addition to crop tops, tube tops, and spaghetti-strap tops worn with midriff baring super-low rise jeans are popular with teens. Friedlander:

Casey Lewis, who runs the popular After School Substack, has watched a lot of back-to-school hauls the past few months from middle-school- to college-aged kids, which is the sweet spot for my daughter’s adulation. Lewis says “it’s all about tube tops and girls are wearing these super-low jeans and they’re showing their bellies and spaghetti-strap tops.”

Friedlander wrote that another reason her daughter wants to wear crop tops is that wearing crop tops gives her 5-year-old daughter the confidence to “hang with the cool teenager who was the assistant in her ballet class.”

Even though my daughter doesn’t own a phone or have her own app log-ins for mine, the abundance of content on TikTok or Snapchat inevitably trickles down. Somehow she instinctively knows what kind of wardrobe choices will make her feel like she can hang with the cool teenager who was the assistant in her ballet class.

Friedlander related that at a sleepover, matching crop tops were distributed by a parent to schoolgirls, and that “a kid [was seen] wearing one that said “Little Devil.” Friedlander:

One of the Reddit posters I reached out to said her daughter was given one at a sleepover by a friend’s mom who’d bought all the kids matching tops.

In my defense, the crop tops don’t always make it easy for us to take their side. My friend Cybil [...] has no qualms with most crop tops but even admitted to giving the side-eye to a kid wearing one that said “Little Devil.”

Unlike Lyndon and Carla, Friedlander openly condones (pre) tween crop tops; however, Friedlander bought her daughter some camisoles to be worn under her crop tops, which will be promptly restyled by her daughter on the school bus and/or at sleepovers. Friedlander:

In either case, I bought my daughter some camisoles to wear under her shirts. Let’s see if she keeps them on at school.

[However] [s]he’s already figured out the time-honored tradition of restyling her outfit once she jumps on the school bus or goes to a friend’s house.

Dear Hannah Prep

Back in 2023, Rory Satran asked on The Wall Street Journal “How Young Is Too Young for a Crop Top?” (Oct. 27, 2023) Before attempting to answer the question, Satran wrote that Dear Hannah Prep, a Dallas-based boutique, stocks “[...] crop tops. Lots and lots of crop tops” for “mini Swifties and Alabama sorority girls-to-be”. Satran wrote:

For mini Swifties and Alabama sorority girls-to-be, the Dallas boutique Dear Hannah Prep [...] is chock-full of everything a tween girl might want to wear for home games, slumber parties, screenings of the “Barbie” movie, or a school dance. Arranged in rainbow-colored stacks are: [...] crop tops. Lots and lots of crop tops. 

In a very interesting paragraph, Satran related that for “many” tweens crop tops don’t represent vulnerability, because they’re cute, innocent, and are worn to express body positivity; however, “others” find them “inappropriate”; therefore, in a bit of vindictiveness, stores like Dear Hannah Prep stock lots of crop tops despite or due to their divisiveness. Satran:

For many tweens—and their parents—crop tops are a cute, innocent way to express their burgeoning interest in fashion, and their body positivity. For others, they are inappropriate. [...] Despite, or perhaps because of, their divisiveness, crop tops for tweens have become big business.

Satran shared that Dear Hannah Prep has over 300,000 followers on TikTok and that in “almost every video, the tweens are wearing crop tops, some showing more midriff than others.” #marketing

Satran wrote that tween crop tops are “omnipresent” and are sold in “almost any store that carries kidswear these days”. For example, “from Walmart to Saks Fifth Avenue”, Zara, Shein, and “from Fendi to Stella McCartney to Versace”. Satran:

Walk into almost any store that carries kidswear these days, from Walmart to Saks Fifth Avenue, and you’ll see at least one crop top. [...] Zara has made them a mainstay of its children’s collections. On Chinese fast-fashion site Shein there are over 1,000 tween-size crop top styles [..] high-end designers from Fendi to Stella McCartney to Versace offer crop tops for tweens.

Crop tops are so omnipresent, it can be hard to find a non-cropped top for tweens and teens these days.

Satran attributed the recent rise of tweens in crop tops and their demand for more and more crop tops to tweens emulating beloved pop stars like Olivia Rodrigo, Emma Chamberlain, and Taylor Swift. Satran:

While crop tops emerged for teens and women in the groovy 1970s [...] they’ve only trickled down to the tween market in a big way in the past few years. [...] Tween-beloved stars like Olivia Rodrigo and Emma Chamberlain appear to live in crop tops. Taylor Swift wore one to the Grammys this year. It is no wonder tweens want in. Stores are scrambling to keep up with the demand.

Kelly Dowdy, of the high-end kids’ boutique English Rabbit in Beverly Hills, shared with Satran that some of her high-end prep school-attending customers only purchase crop tops. Dowdy shared,

“We have [high-end] customers who won’t buy anything if it’s not a crop top. They wear [private school] uniforms at school, and when they’re not at school they’re in a crop top.” 

And Sylvana Ward Durrett, of the “chic” website Maisonette, shared with Satran that crop tops “do well” on Maisonette. So much so that searches for the controversial attire doubled in a year. 

Interestingly, one can correctly infer from Friedlander and Satran’s reporting that crop tops are de rigueur for teens. For example, I previously wrote about the Blumarine by Marc Jacobs collab, which featured best-selling signature pieces like ultra-mini skirts, baby tees, and cropped sweatshirts. [Emphasis added] Consequently, one can expect that crop tops will eventually become de rigueur for tweens too. 

Lastly, in terms of the question: How young is too young for a crop top? Durrett opined: “[...]  I would say it’s somewhere between seven and eight.”

 

The Art of Mike Cockrill: Fine Art or (Pre) Teen Erotica? | An Introduction

Final Girl Digital posted the following Note on the Cricket Guest Substack: 

“These paintings by mike cockrill speak to me” 

The paintings that spoke to Final Girl Digital were Cockrill’s:

• “Grave Condition” (1997) 
• “Indepence Day” (1997) 
• “The Mirror Game” (1997) 
• "Clown Piñata" (2015-220) 
• “The Red Guard” (1997)
• "Interrogation"

Each painting depicts sadistic schoolgirls killing and/or torturing clowns. Of the series of paintings, Felicia Feaster, wrote in the New Art Examiner (July-August 1997) that the subjects of the paintings were circus clowns and “pre-adolescent girls in party dresses” and that the paintings were “vapid’ but that they “achieve[d] a shockingly layered profusion of meaning”. Feaster:

With their apparently vapid subject matter of circus clowns and little girls, the Baby Doll Clown Killers achieve a shockingly layered profusion of meaning. Two standards of cuteness face off as if in some apocalyptic jihad, as pre-adolescent girls in party dresses aim pistols and bayonets at the bowed heads of circus clowns who suggest an inferior race tamed by their evolutionary superiors.

"Clown Piñata"

Interestingly, "Clown Piñata" alludes to Cockrill’s other motifs slash themes, which involve sadistic and salacious schoolgirls. For example, in "Clown Piñata", the nymphet, in the already cleavage-baring yellow dress, has her white bra exposed, and the teen in the background is enjoying a smoke in her (satin) bra and panties while observing the pre-teen sadism.  

“Target”

In “Target” (2009), another painting in the Baby Doll Clown Killers series, a pre-adolescent girl has her knee in the crotch (area) of a clown, but as she paints the clown’s nose to match her crop top, another nymphet looks upon art patrons mischievously, while the strap of her tank top reveals her braless cleavage. And note that she does not have flush fountains. 

In 2006, Cockrill’s Over the Garden Wall exhibition was held at the 31 Grand in Brooklyn. Ben La Rocco posted a review of the exhibition, “100 words on Mike Cockrill”, on The Brooklyn Rail (April 2006). In the post, La Rocco wrote that Cockrill’s “garden is a place where childhood play meets adult sexuality”. Specifically, La Rocco referenced Balthus, Cockrill’s “unprepossessing” “Girl before a Mirror”, and Cockrill’s “Naughty”, which La Rocco referred to as a “tour de force”. La Rocco opined:

Mike Cockrill’s current exhibition of paintings at 31 Grand is entitled Over the Garden Wall. One part John Currin, two parts Balthus, Cockrill’s garden is a place where childhood play meets adult sexuality in an elixir equally suggestive and nostalgic. Children poised on the verge of adolescence feign poses to determine if they fit in [...] His symbolism is perhaps best when it’s subtle: his unprepossessing “Girl before a Mirror” is as effective as his art history laden tour de force, “Naughty.”

“Naughty”

In terms of Cockrill’s “Naughty” (2005), a naughty nymphet looks mischievously at gawkers while licking icing from her fingers. Cockrill drew attention to her spread legs via her brother’s hand, which barely obscures his sister’s panties. 

Figure: 1

Eagle-eyed art connoisseurs may have noticed another “Naughty” nymphet in the painting (See Figure: 1) who is walking towards the mischievous one with her white dress is inexplicably raised revealingly. 

In terms of La Rocco’s reference to Cockrill’s work being “two parts Balthus”, La Rocco was referencing the fact that Cockrill and Balthus shared the same muse, which is the suggestive nymphet. For example, if one compares Cockrill’s “Class Princess” (2003-04) and “Bunnyheart” (2003) to Balthus’ “Thérèse dreaming” (1938), La Rocco’s reference should be apparent. 

The description of “Thérèse dreaming”, which is on view at The Metropolitan Museum of Art (The Met), that is posted on The Met’s website will suffice as a description of “Class Princess” and “Bunnyheart” as well. The Met related that Thérèse is a “lost in thought” 12 or 13-year-old unmolded raw spirit whose “adolescent sexuality” is “potent” with a “lack of inhibition”; however, The Met admitted that “Thérèse dreaming” is “unsettling”.

Balthus’s model, Thérèse Blanchard, appears—as the title of this work suggests—unaware of her surroundings and lost in thought. Blanchard was about twelve or thirteen when the artist painted this canvas. [...] Balthus, like countless modern artists, believed the subject of the child to be a source of raw spirit, not yet molded by societal expectations. Many early twentieth‑century avant‑garde artists [...] viewed adolescent sexuality as a potent site of psychological vulnerability as well as lack of inhibition [...] While it may be unsettling to our eyes today, Thérèse Dreaming draws on this history.

In addition to painting salacious schoolgirls cavorting with cowering clowns, Cockrill painted schoolgirls cavorting with schoolgirls. In “Firstlove” (2008), the pre-adolescent girls, who may not even be of school age, lips lightly touch as Cockrill lowered the blonde’s dress to reveal her budding breasts, while he raised her summer dress to expose her budding bottom-grass. In “Forbidden” (2006), the touching nymphets are bottomless while the one on the left looks cunningly at gawkers while her forbidden fruit is barely covered by the leaf. And in “Adoration”, a chorus of children sing as two midriff-bared schoolgirls embrace and prepare to kiss. 

“Teasing the Blind”

In media, sapphic diversions are often depicted with age-gap affairs (e.g., Lolita\Miller’s Girl (2024)). Thus, it shouldn’t be surprising that, in addition to painting salacious schoolgirls, Cockrill depicted them in age-gap situations as well. For example, in “Teasing the Blind” (2004), Cockrill drew two schoolgirls teasing the blind as the blonde in pink smiles shyly as the girl in yellow confidently raises her dress to tantalize the blind man with what is under her white panties. 

Per the website Mike Cockrill, Cockrill, whom was “[c]lassically trained at the Pennsylvania Academy of the Fine Arts”, began exhibiting his works “in Brooklyn and the East Village in the early 1980s. In addition to his 2006 Over the Garden Wall exhibition at the Grand in Brooklyn, Cockrill’s work has been exhibited over 50 times. For example, in 1994, Cockrill’s paintings were co-exhibited in the Discontents and Debutantes exhibition at the University Galleries of Illinois State University. The gallery’s description of the exhibition relates that the paintings occupy a “precarious social interzone between fantasy and taboo [...] childhood and adulthood” and that Cockrill’s “paintings of girls on [the] cusp of adolescence exude an ambiguous eroticism”.

Discontents and Debutantes features paintings by two artists whose imagery occupies a precarious social interzone between fantasy and taboo, private and public, childhood and adulthood, and personal and media-induced realities. New York artist Mike Cockrill [...] has exhibited paintings dealing with sex, politics and dysfunctional family life since the early 80s. His monumental paintings of girls on [the] cusp of adolescence exude an ambiguous eroticism that leads us to rethink our views on voyeurism and decorum [...]

"Discontents and Debutantes" at the University Galleries of Illinois State University

Cockrill’s paintings exhibited in Discontents and Debutantes are mostly of lounging, perfectly nude or topless, girls on the cusp of adolescence, but Cockrill made their eroticism unambiguous as their legs are often spread suggestively. 

Of course, Cockrill and Balthus aren’t the only artists who utilized the allure of nymphets to sell art. Previously, to name a few, we wrote about the Disturbing Innocence exhibited at The FLAG Art Foundation in Chelsea, Petra Collins' Discharge exhibit at the Capricious in Chinatown, and Ernst Ludwig Kirchner's Marzella (1910).

Lastly, recall that Feaster opined in the New Art Examiner that Cockrill’s work is “vapid”, but in an interview with Poets and Artists (Aug 19 N.D.), Cockrill shared that his works have “a cheerfulness mixed with the darkness” accompanied by “sexually charge[d] undertones”. Cockrill: 

“There is a cheerfulness mixed with the darkness, so to speak. Little girls in party dresses conducting genocide against circus clowns.  Children’s book illustration style works with sexually charge[d] undertones.”

From the NY Times to Netflix: Schoolgirl Sleepover Sex Stories (Part 6) | TikTok Desires, Peeping Parents, and OnlyFans Clickbait

The TikTok "Still No Head" Trend

Of course, not all schoolgirl sleepovers involve sexual activity; however, some schoolgirls don’t understand why there wasn’t any sexual activity. For example, on TikTok, some teens poetically expressed their bewilderment and dismay over not being the recipients of head (i.e., oral sex) during sleepovers. 

For example, one teen TikToker posted that she and her friend “Slept in the same bed” during “So many sleepovers\And still no head”. Another teen related that she and her friend “slept in the same bed 100\times and still got no head”. One schoolgirl even shared that her friend had “seen my boobs” and that they had “showered tg (i.e., together)\ [and] cuddled”, “yet still no head”. And not to be outdone, another teen shared that she and her friend, not only “showered tg”, but that they had “seen every inch of each others [sic] body’s [sic]”, “and still no head”. But those missed opportunities may have been for their benefit.

Recall that 13-year-old Victoria related to Nancy Jo Sales in American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers that some moms at a bat mitzvah opined that boy-girl sleepovers were “so cute”. Sophia said to Sales that some parents allow boy-girl sleepovers because “it’s being ‘feminist”’, and Sophia said that the parents allow salacious sleepovers, because they want to be considered “cool” by their daughters. And Savannah, who ruled her Brooklyn, NY middle school, had a “famous dad” whom let Savannah’s boyfriend “stay over at her house all night sometimes”. Savannah told Sales that her parents didn’t want to “repress” or “control her sexuality”. Consequently, Savannah’s classmates considered her and her parents to be “cool”.

However, the desire to achieve cool status may not be the only reason a parent will allow his or her (pre) teen daughter to have a sleepover. Take Rich Cohen’s post on AirMail: “Always Be Suspicious of the “Cool Mom”: A sex scandal involving teens and a mother engulfs upscale Greenwich, Connecticut” (February 26, 2022) 

In the post, Cohen wrote about Hadley Palmer, whom pled guilty to three counts of voyeurism and one count of risk of injury to a minor. Per Cohen, Hadley: “live[d] in one of the swankest houses in Belle Haven, [in] one of the toniest sections of Greenwich, Connecticut, [and in] one of the richest towns in America”. And in that swanky  Connecticut house, Hadley, an apparent voyeur, encouraged teen sex. Cohen wrote:

Beware the cool mom. She says she’d prefer you and your friends not drink, but, if you must, she’d rather you do it in the house, where you’ll at least be safe, which, I promise, you won’t be. She’s against drugs, but will not come down hard on you for it, as long as you keep it at home and let her have a toke, just to make sure it’s on the up-and-up. She’s against pre-marital sex, but says, if you must, because of urges, please not in the car, nor in some dirty motel, but here, in the guest room at the big house by the shore—no, not that room, nor that one, nor that one, nor that one (her house is huge) but in the one at the end of the hall by the maid’s quarters and laundry.

If you don’t believe me, check out the legal papers recently filed in the State Superior Court in Stamford, Connecticut, where 53-year-old Hadley Palmer of Greenwich, after striking a deal with prosecutors, pleaded guilty to three counts of voyeurism and one count of risk of injury to a minor.

Relatedly, Angela Andaloro posted on People “11-Year-Old Calls Mom from a Sleepover After Discovering a Camera in Her Friend's Bedroom” (March 12, 2025) In the piece, Andaloro related that, during a sleepover, an 11-year-old girl noticed that there were cameras in her friend’s room. The cameras were supposed to be for security purposes but turned off; however, there were lights on the cameras that indicated that the cameras were recording. And after the 11-year-old put a shirt over a camera, the mother of the sleepover host “removed the shirt, didn’t say anything and left". Andaloro related:

[...] the mom explains her 11-year-old daughter went to a sleepover with another friend. When the pair got to the third girl's home, they discovered "there were 'security cameras' in her friends [sic] room," she writes.

"When asked about it, she was told by the parents that they were for security purposes and that they were 'turned off,' " the mom explains, noting her daughter could tell that wasn't the case. A light on the cameras indicated they were turned on. Uncomfortable, the girls put a shirt over the camera.

"The parent came into the room, removed the shirt, didn’t say anything and left," [...]

Knowing that (some) adults are aware of the sexual activity that takes place at (some) schoolgirl sleepovers, (some) OnlyFans content creators use the allure of schoolgirl sleepover sex to gain subscribers. 

The subtitle for Rebecca Jennings’ Vulture\New York Magazine piece “They Make Millions Acting Like Sexy Babies”. (Aug. 21, 2025) is: “How the Bop House, an OnlyFans influencer group, conjures a fantasy of young girls having a horny sleepover.”  In the piece, Jennings wrote that the Bop House members conjured “a fantasy of young girls having a horny sleepover”. The conjuring was done by wearing braces, girlish rompers, midriff-baring cartoon pajamas, onesie pajamas, and Pokémon slippers. And for emphasis, the OnlyFans content creators used cartoon sound effects in their TikTok videos, which were used to drive viewers to their OnlyFans accounts, where they can make thousands per month. Jennings wrote:

Several members even wear braces, which they claim are orthodontic necessities. In loosely choreographed TikTok dances, they wear matching snug leotards, girlish rompers, curve-hugging Skims maxi dresses, and midriff-baring cartoon pajamas [...] The audio in many of their videos is essentially cartoon sound effects, and much of what happens in them emphasizes their youth, from wearing Pokémon slippers and jumping on couches to feeding each other lollipops [...] Paired with onesie pajamas, e-girl makeup on an already young-looking face [...]

Julia Filippo, a 23-year-old Bop House member, shared with Jennings that she “blew up” on OnlyFans, because “men love” her innocent appearance. 

“That’s how I blew up, because men loved how innocent I looked,” says [Julia] Filippo.

In addition, Jennings related that in a viral online video, Camilla, another 23-year-old Bop House member, asked Julia how much money she made in her first week on OnlyFans. After Julia shared that she made a whopping $54,000, Camilla opined that it was, “[...] ’cause she looks 12.” 

Lastly, yet intriguingly, Jennings opined that we would be naïve to assume that Julia, Camilla, and the other Bop House members aren’t aware of the power that appearing younger has given them. Jennings wrote: 

“Though none of the Bop House members I spoke to admitted to deliberately making themselves appear younger, it would be naïve to assume they don’t know the power it has given them.” 

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THE CUT’s Sex Diaries: The NY Party Girl (23), Ricky in Finance (43) and Sex Tape Fetishes

New York Magazine’s THE CUT posted: “This Week’s Sex Diary: The Party Girl Whose Date Sends Her Money and Gift Cards” (September 5, 2025)

The Party Girl is a 24-year-old New Yorker - “born and raised in the city” who has: “no money and no rich parents,” because her parents are “struggling artists”. Consequently, she’s “on a strict budget”, she tries “not to spend any money during the day,” and at night, she tries: “to get as much paid for as possible”. The Party Girl “barely” has food at home, and she can’t afford to order GrubHub, because it “will cost too much money.” Therefore, if she can’t get a free meal, she eats, like, peanut butter with “a few sticks of celery”.

The Party Girl is the co-owner, with her sister, of a beauty line. The Party Girl focuses on “relations and marketing”; thus, she keeps samples from the beauty line in her bag. She shared that being a party girl is: “conducive to getting our product in the right hands, since I go out every night.”

However, when the Party Girl goes out, unsurprisingly, she’s not strictly business. For example, at a rooftop party with an actress friend, the Party Girl met a vacationing Frenchman. After some “dancing and getting steamy”, she “pulled[ed] him into the bathroom”, where they “fuck[ed] against the door” before she had a “powerful orgasm”. However, the Party Girl, an apparent feminist: “Never got his name. Ha!”

Most relevantly for our purposes, the Party Girl is in a “situationship” with 44-year-old Ricky, whom she described as “very wealthy, actually fun, funny, [and] cool”. “He’s in finance, obviously.” They met at Soho House in Dumbo when she was 23. Of the age-gap situationship, the Party Girl shared: “Sometimes we fuck, sometimes we don’t.”

On cue, after sexual activity, Ricky sends the Party Girl gifts (e.g., $300 via Venmo, Amazon or Seamless gift cards). The Party Girl opined that Ricky sends her gifts after sex, because “he’s a nice guy.” However, she admitted that their age-gap situationship “sounds suspicious”. The Party Girl shared:

And just because he’s a nice guy, he’ll do things during the week like Venmo me a few hundred bucks or send me Amazon gift cards or Seamless gift cards. It sounds suspicious, but it’s really not. He’s rich and nice, I’m young and broke, and he’s generous to me.

The Party Girl wrote that she would like Ricky: “[...] even if he was a poor schmuck. You don’t have to believe me, but it’s true.” We believe her! Think about all the coed crushes on proletariat professors.

One afternoon, Ricky took the Party Girl “to some art-gallery-drinks thing”. “After the boring art thing,” they went to a restaurant for dirty martinis, where she kissed Ricky’s neck. Later, back at her tiny studio in Nolita, the age-gap couple had a “fun night”. They kissed, and Ricky fingered the Party Girl to orgasm. The Party Girl related:

After the boring art thing, we go to a restaurant and have dirty martinis. I’m kissing Ricky’s neck while he tells me about his ex-wife and work drama. He’s in finance, obviously. I don’t know or care who Ricky dates or fucks when we’re not hanging out. We never ask each other such questions.

Ricky drives me home, and I invite him into my tiny studio, but we’re both pretty tired. We kiss. He fingers me until I come. Then he drives away. A fun night!

On cue, the next morning, the Party Girl recieved a “massage gift certificate from Ricky” - “such a nice place, too!” To thank him, she “text[ed] him a million heart emojis.” After the massage at the “fancy spa”, where she spent “90 minutes of heaven [on earth]”, she “text[ed] Ricky a million thank-yous, which he hearts.”

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On Amazon Prime’s Cruel Intentions (2024), Caroline and Lucien, step-siblings and Manchester College students, attempted to seduce Annie - the 18-year-old freshman and daughter of the Vice President of the United States. Interestingly, Lucien had a “camera thing”. In other words, he couldn’t have sex unless he was making a sex tape; thus, every time he had sex on campus, it was recorded. (Note: Lucien shared his sex tapes with Caroline, whom masturbated in her sorority house bed while she watched her step-brother’s sex tape on her MacBook.) The Manchester College coeds whom Lucien made sex tapes with were willing sex tape participants, and, with the exception of the Vice President’s daughter, they had a disregard for whom saw the sex tapes.

This is relevant to the Party Girl, because after a “friend in PR” sent the Party Girl a “vibe” (i.e., a vibrator), “a tiny little guy”, from a company that the friend in PR represents, the Party Girl “double-lock[ed]” her doors and tried it out. Her verdict: “The vibe is a gem. I text my PR friend that I fully support her client.” Subsequently, the Party Girl filmed herself “using the new vibe”, and she sexted her Gen Z amateur porn to Dylan - a business school student whom lives in an apartment, “which is owned by his parents.”

Fascinatingly, like the Manchester College coeds, the Party Girl didn’t care if someone other than Dylan saw her sext. The Party Girl wrote:

I film myself using the new vibe and send it to Dylan. I am not worried about what Dylan will do with the vid. He can jerk off to it. Or show his friends. Who cares!

(Note: Dylan never responded to the Party Girl’s sext. Is that because receiving sexts is so common (for Dylan) that they don’t warrant a reply?)

And this is not an uncommon sentiment among Gen Z, which is a shift away from Gen X and even some Gen Y, whom are, in general, more protective over the distribution of their sexts.

For instance, on the “Spilling all of my FIRSTS” episode of the Extra Dirty podcast (June 5, 2025), a questioner wanted some advice from Hallie Batchelder, a NYC influencer with 645.6K TikTok followers and the podcast’s host, for some “extra dirty advice” about making sex tapes with three (!) of her “sneaky links” (i.e., casual sex partners). Understandably, the questioner was hesitant about making the three (!) separate sex tapes, because she had only made sex tapes in high school with her “long-term high school boyfriend”. The questioner asked Hallie: “Have you ever made a sex tape with a casual hookup?”

Hallie, who, à la the Party Girl, had a Venmo Sugar Daddy too, responded by sharing that, like Lucien, she has a sex tape problem and kink too, because she makes a sex tape with every casual hookup. Hallie opined that making a sex tape is similar to making a YouTube podcast; thus, she feels obligated to perform for the camera during casual hookups, because, to Hallie, having casual sex is almost like being on stage. Hallie said,

“Oh my god, I've made sex tapes with everyone. It's actually a problem and a kink of mine. Like, every casual hookup I've ever had, I'm, like, whip out the camera. I do have a podcast, so, like, whenever a camera is out, I feel, like, I perform. I kind of look at sex tapes the same way. It's, like, almost, like, I'm on a stage.”

Hallie said that she loves the idea that her sextapes enter the “spank bank” (i.e., saved content for masturbation), because she gets gratification from knowing that a guy is masturbating to, say, a sex tape of her oral sex performance. Hallie said,

“And I just, like, love the idea cuz, like, these are going to the spank bank. Like, these videos are going straight to the spank bank. And there's just something - a thought of a guy, like, you know, like, jerking off or whatever to, like, a sex tape of you, like, sucking them off or whatever that just makes - brings me gratification.”

In addition, Hallie shared that it’s hot to watch her performances in sextapes, because it’s similar to an athlete analyzing game film. While watching her sextapes, Hallie has fun analyzing the angles, the lighting, and assessing how she looks from the camera’s perspective. Hallie said,

“I think it's hot. Like, I think it's so hot to make a sex tape and then watch it back. Like, you know how like sports players they have like film and then like film meetings after. That's how I treat sex tapes with my casual hookups. We'll have a sex tape. We'll get all the angles, you know, maybe get a light in there. [...] I want to be filmed. I also, like, want to see what I look like from, like, a camera perspective. I think it's, like, fun. Maybe I'm just like a narcissist [...]”

However, Hallie advised that making a sex tape should happen organically.

“I wouldn't plan it. [...] No, I think it should be on a whim. Like, this is how I do it. I'll be, like, fooling around with a guy in my bed and then I'll just, like, "Oh my God, film me. This is so fun. That's so hot. And they'll always be, like, ‘Yep.’”

And Hallie warned the questioner about the possibility of sextape leaks, but Hallie said that, sometimes, like the Party Girl, she wants her casual hookups to leak her “amazing” sex tapes. Hallie said,

“But, like, sometimes I'm, like, I wish they would show their friends the amazing work that I've put into them.”

In the end, Hallie advised the questioner to have fun and make the three (!) sex tapes with her “sneaky links”, because making casual hookup sex tapes is fun and hot. Hallie advised,

“And yeah, I would just say have fun with it.”

“I would say do it. It's fun. It's hot. But at the end of the day, just like be careful [...]”

Further reading: “Influencer Hallie Batchelder: (Teen) Anal Sex and Venmo Sugar Daddies”