Saturday, February 22, 2020

COSMOPOLITAN: Lucy Hale, High School Vibrators & Sex

Taylor Andrews wrote an article in the March 2020 issue of Cosmopolitan about how the magazine can guess a young woman's personality based on where she keeps her debit card. 

For example, if it's kept in "Your bra" then your energy gives off "Serial-killer-obsessed" and you spend your Friday nights "Dateline-ing. What of it?"

However, if you're a young woman who keeps your debit card in your phone case, then your energy is "Big Sister and: "You were the first to use a vibrator in high school, so ofc [of course] you gave sexing advice to anyone who listened ... and also explained calc like a pro."

Cosmopolitan's covers typically use sexually explicit language and profile scantily clad young women. And the magazine, among other topics, regularly covers sex, sexual relationships and beauty tips. Consequently, per Hearst, the magazine's publisher,: "Cosmopolitan is the biggest young women’s media brand in the world."

But some, like former model Nicole Weider, allege that Cosmopolitan became the largest selling magazine in the world by marketing to nymphets. For example, the magazine uses popular acronyms used by generation z and millennials (e.g., ofc). And Cosmopolitan profiles teens or celebrities who are popular with teens.

For example, the March 2020 issue of Cosmopolitan profiles Lucy Hale. Hale is most famous for playing Aria Montgomery on Pretty Little Liars where she had an extended affair with her high school English teacher. And the text on the cover next to Hale reads: SO THIS SIGN IS the best at sex (WHEN THEY'RE NOT CRYING, THAT IS)

And the February 2020 issue of Cosmopolitan profiles Emma Chamberlain, an 18-year-old social media influencer, with the text: This sext has a 99.2% success rate

Saturday, February 15, 2020

Levine's "Harmful to Minors: The Perils of Protecting Children From Sex"

Judith Levine begins her introduction to Harmful to Minors by writing: 

In America today, it is nearly impossible to publish a book that says children and teenagers can have sexual pleasure and be safe too. 

And she writes that only 25 years ago it would have been easy to get a book published that deals with the sexuality of nymphets:

This book, at bottom, is about fear, America's fears about child sexuality are both peculiarly contemporary (I am certain I would not have had the same troubles twenty-five years ago) [...] Harmful to Minors recounts how that fear got its claws into America in the late twentieth century and how [...] it now dominates the ways we think and act about children's sexuality. 

Levine writes that the fear about child sexuality stems from two sources: feminists and the christian religious Right:

The political articulation of these fears in the late twentieth century came from two disparate sources. 

1. One one side were feminists, whose movement exposed widespread rape and domestic sexual violence against women and children and initiated a new body of law (e.g., age of consent) that would punish the perpetrator and cease to blame the victim. 

2. From the other side, the religious Right brought to sexual politics the belief that women and children need special protection because they are "naturally" averse to sex of any kind. 

Levine writes that approximately 50% of nymphets between fifteen and nineteen are sexually active. And that: "In the 1950s, plenty of teens had sex, but it wasn't considered troublesome because it wasn't premarital: in that decade, America had the highest rate of teen marriage in the Western world." Currently, approximately 90% of heterosexual Americans have sexual intercourse before marriage. 

Levine writes that experts give a variety of reasons for teen sex but fail to mention that teens have sex because, simply, sex feels good:

In almost every article or broadcast, experts are called in to catalogue the reasons that teens have sex, all of them bad: Their peers pressure them or pedophiles manipulate them; they drink or drug too much, listen to rap, or download porn; they are under too much pressure or aren't challenged enough; they are abused or abusive or feel immortal or suicidal; they're rich and spoiled or poor and demoralized, raised too strictly or too permissively; they are ignorant or oversophisticated. 

Squeamish or ignorant about facts, parents appear to accept the pundits' worst conjectures about their children's sexual motives. It's as if they cannot imagine that their kids seek sex for the same reasons they do: They like or love the person they are having it with. It gives them a sense of beauty, worthiness, happiness, or power. And it feels good. 

Levine goes on to reiterate that the notion that teen sex is perilous is relatively new:

Indeed, the concept that sex poses an almost existential peril to children, that it robs them of their very childhood, was born only about 150 years ago. 

According to the influential French historian Philippe Ari├Ęs, European societies before the eighteenth century did not recognize what we now call childhood, defined as a long period of dependency and protection lasting into physical and social maturity. 

Levine even opines that protecting minors from sex is harmful:

Harmful to Minors launches from two negatives: sex is not ipso facto harmful to minors; and America's drive to protect kids from sex is protecting them from nothing. Instead, often it is harming them. [...] adults owe children not only protection and a schooling in safety but also the entitlement to pleasure. 

At almost 300 pages, Harmful to Minors' is full of interesting facts and anecdotes. And we're going to write a separate post on Chapter 4. Crimes of Passion, which is about age-gap relationships. But we'll end this post with some examples of nymphet sexuality:

1. Sherry Turkle of MIT shared: "A 13-year-old informs me that she prefers to do her sexual experimentation online. Her partners are usually the boys in her class at school. In person, she says, it is 'mostly grope-y.' Online, 'they need to talk more.'" 

2. A major longitudinal study at UCLA found that 75% of kids had masturbated and/or had sex with another child before the age of six. 

3. "Psychologists Sharon Lamb and Mary Coakley surveyed three hundred psychologically healthy Bryn Mawr students about their childhood sexual experiences. The young women wrote about thrilling games of porn star, prostitute, rape, and slave girl, all at ages in the single digits [...]"

4. Joan Rappaport led "Adolescent Issues", a series of discussions at a Manhattan private school where she gave her sixth-grade students the homework assignment: "Go home and find your clitorises."

5. "Flora masturbated at six or seven and had orgasms starting at ten or eleven. When she was that age, a thirteen-year-old friend joined her. 'We would lay around and take off our clothes,' Flora recalled [...] We even made dildos out of toilet paper and Vaseline.' She recounted the story without shame or regret: in fact, she spoke with glee."

Harmful to Minors: The Perils of Protecting Children From Sex is the winner of the 2002 Los Angeles Times Book Prize. 

Thursday, February 6, 2020

Jessica Simpson: Pre-Teen Sexual Abuse or Nymphet Lipstick Lesbian Affair?

Jessica Simpson shared in her memoir, Open Book, that she was "sexually abused" from the ages of six to 12 by a older female family friend. The alleged abuse occurred during sleepovers approximately three times per year for six years. Simpson shared that the older nymphet initiated the sex with 'tickling': “It would start with tickling my back and then go into things that were extremely uncomfortable.” 

And Simpson added: 'Eventually it wasn't just at nighttime. She would get me to go into a closet with her, or just find a way to linger until we were alone. It got to the point that she would sneak into the bathroom to watch me shower.'

However, some argue that Simpson was not sexually abused but that she was engaged in a consensual nymphet lipstick lesbian affair. 

For example, the older friend of the family was only one year older than Simpson; so, when the alleged abuse began, Simpson was six and the other nymphet was seven. 

In addition, Simpson wrote: 'I never let her near [my younger sister] Ashlee, but I also never screamed or told her to stop. I was confused, wondering if it was something that I wanted to keep going.'

And Simpson shared in a People interview that she felt like she was a sexual abuser of a nymphet, “I allowed it to happen, so I felt that I was as much of the abuser as the abused. So I was very shameful during that time, from 6 to 12 years old.”

In her memoir, Simpson blames her years of alcoholism and prescription pill addiction on the pre-teen lipstick lesbian affair. But some argue that her addiction may have more to do with the typical unhappiness that comes with sudden success and newfound wealth than anything else. 

Furthermore, pre-teen lipstick lesbianism is not uncommon. For example: 

Clarissa shared in Nancy Friday's My Secret Garden: Women’s Sexual Fantasies that she remembers when she and her friend were caught masturbating with candles when they were 12.

And Marina shared that she began to be aware of men at the age of 9 or 10 and thought about them while she masturbated. However, Marina only had "a vague idea of what lovemaking was" until she met her friend, a ten-year-old Mediterranean girl. Marina and the Mediterranean nymphet used to sit at opposite ends of the bathtub and pour warm water from a Russian silver teapot all over their clitorises while caressing their bodies "with infallible, instinctive verve."

Judith Levine shared in her prize winning book Harmful to Minors: The Perils of Protecting Children From Sex that a major longitudinal study at UCLA found that 75% of kids had masturbated and/or had sex with another child before the age of six. And that: "Flora masturbated at six or seven and had orgasms starting at ten or eleven. When she was that age, a thirteen-year-old friend joined her. 'We would lay around and take off our clothes,' Flora recalled [...] 'We even made dildos out of toilet paper and Vaseline.' She recounted the story without shame or regret: in fact, she spoke with glee."

Lastly, isn't it interesting that Simpson and her publisher are using the allure of (pre-teen) nymphet lipstick lesbianism to sell the memoir?

Tuesday, February 4, 2020

Ozzy Osbourne's "Crazy Babies" i.e., Child Brides

"Crazy Babies" is the third track on Ozzy Osbourne's No Rest for the Wicked (1988). The album cover features Ozzy surrounded by three nymphets - scantily clad and beautified with make-up. 

We had no idea that the nymphets were portraying Ozzy's child brides until we read the following in Vanity Fair  (November 12, 2013):

When she [Liberty Ross] was 10, a family friend who was also a model agent asked her parents whether their daughter might be interested in posing as Ozzy Osbourne’s child bride for his new album cover. The response? Why, naturally. Liberty wore a tattered gauzy dress for her modeling debut and had to hold Ozzy’s hand while he sat on a throne adorned by rats and large slithering snakes. “It’s etched in my brain for life,” says Liberty. “I remember thinking, Gosh, he’s very sweaty and shaking a lot.”

Here are some intriguing lyrics:

Crazy Babies
Born to live on a permanent high
Nobody's gonna change them, change them
They've gone over the top
Nobody's gonna tame them, tame them
They're never gonna stop

Crazy Babies
When they were born they were born to be wild

No Rest for the Wicked (1988) went Platinum in Canada and double Platinum in the USA.