Sunday, September 25, 2022

ONLY MURDERS IN THE BUILDING's Child Bride Connection | Earl Stokes (42) & Rita de Acosta (15)


Rosemary Counter opined in her Vanity Fair piece, "The Apartments That Inspired Only Murders in the Building Have Their Own Bloody History" (July 6, 2022), that "Though it’s filmed at the nearby Belnord, the Arconia building in the Hulu series seems much more closely linked to the Ansonia—a real-life apartment complex [on Broadway between 73rd and 74th Street] that’s been home to murder, mayhem, and a swingers club."

The Ansonia building in New York City.
LEFT, FROM GETTY IMAGES; RIGHT, COURTESY OF HULU. 

Counter related that the Ansonia has everything from Juliet balconies to marbled staircases with four-bedrooms going for about nine million:
Made up of 17 stories and around 400 unique units, the building is every New Yorker’s real-estate dream come true: Parisian-inspired with Juliet balconies, round turrets with gray terracotta details, and an opulent archway entry. Inside are hardwood herringbone floors, floor-to-ceiling windows, and a sweeping marbled staircase spiraling beneath a grand domed skylight. Today, a 3,000-plus square foot, four-bedroom, three-bathroom unit in the building is listed for almost $9,000,000.
Earl Dodge Stokes and Rita Hernandez de Alba de Acosta

But it's Earl Dodge Stokes, the Ansonia's founder, who's most relevant to this blog, because, per Counter, Stokes was: "[...] said to be very fond of young, newly pubescent, girls." Consequently, after Stokes spied a photograph of Rita Hernandez de Alba de Acosta, a 15-year-old heiress, he decided that she would be his nymphet bride.

Born-and-bred New Yorker William Earl Dodge Stokes, with a million dollars in his pocket having sued his own brother after their father died [...] spotted a photo in a shop window of 15-year-old heiress Rita Hernandez de Alba de Acosta and decided she’d be his teenage bride. He was 42 and said to be very fond of young, newly pubescent, girls. 

Interestingly, Counter wrote that it was "thought" (i.e., assumed) that Rita "reluctantly" married Stokes, but that it was money that was her tipping point. (Ah money - the bane of teen OnlyFans stars and schoolgirl prostitutes.) And was it the money that kept Rita around for six years of marriage?

It’s thought that Rita reluctantly married him for money, produced a single male heir, and walked away around age 21 with what was rumored to be the largest divorce settlement on record at the time—$2 million in cash and $36,000 annually in alimony, allegedly.

Counter may have been wrong about why the teen heiress married Stokes, but Counter was correct about Stoke's foundess for (much) younger women, because, per the New York Times, subsequent to his divorce from de Acosta, 59-year-old Stokes married 24-year-old Helen Blanche Ellwood.

Wednesday, August 31, 2022

UPDATE: Leo DiCaprio & Camila Morrone Have Split & FYI: DiCaprio Doesn't Date Over 25

Leonardo DiCaprio & Camila Morrone 

I related in Teens Love and Want to F*ck James Franco: A Study of a Life and Works that Daniella Scott of Cosmopolitan related that Leonardo DiCaprio met Camila Morrone when she was 12, reunited with her when she was 19, and shortly thereafter started openly dating the actress.

Perez Hilton's post "Leonardo DiCaprio’s New GF Responds To Nasty Instagram Comments About [Age-Gap] Relationship!" related that 44-year-old DiCaprio‘s 22-year-old girlfriend, Morrone, responded via an Instagram video to trolls who left disparaging comments about her two-year relationship with DiCaprio. (i.e., They started openly dating when Leo was 42 and Camila was 19.)


Very interestingly, Leo has not been widely canceled for his age-gap relationship, but some trolls left comments on Morrone's video like: “Leo only cares about your body” and “You only have a couple more years before he dumps you girl! Collect your bag 😍”. 

Morrone in Never Goin' Back (2018)

We know Morrone from her role as a naughty teen in Never Goin' Back (2018). Here's IMDb's plot summary:
Jessie and Angela, high school dropouts, are taking a week off to chill at the beach. Too bad their house got robbed, rent's due, they're about to get fired, and they're broke.
Morrone in Never Goin' Back (2018)

Scott Menzel of We Live Entertainment opined that Never Goin' Back (2018) is: "A sweet and raunchy [e.g., lipstick lesbianism, cocaine use, etc.] tale of glorious idiocy."

UPDATE: Wednesday August 31, 2022

Allie Jones posted on Gawker "This Bitch Really Did It: Leo DiCaprio broke up with his girlfriend days after she turned 25" (Aug 31, 2022) Thus, it appears that 47-year-old DiCaprio and 25-year-old Morrone have split. 

Source: Reddit\TrustLittleBrother

Jones appeared to be surprised by the split, but some fans weren't because DiCaprio doesn't appear to date anyone over 25, which is exemplified by the graph LEONARDO DICAPRIO REFUSED TO DATE A WOMAN OVER 25. The graph illustrates that DiCaprio dated:

  • Gisele Bundchen from when she was 18 to 23
  • Bar Refaeli from when she was 20 to 25 
  • Blake Lively while she was 23
  • Erin Heatherton while she was 22
  • Toni Garrn from when she was  20 to 21
  • Kelly Rohrback while she was 25
  • Nina Agdal from when she was 24 to 25

Perhaps fittingly, Jones ended her Gawker piece by writing: 

In November, DiCaprio will turn 48. And somewhere in America, his next girlfriend is getting ready to start her senior year of high school. We wish her the best.

Tuesday, August 30, 2022

Netflix's SENIOR YEAR (2022): Teen Handies & Twerking Cheerleaders

 


Here's the IMDb's synopsis for Netflix's Senior Year (2022): "A cheerleading stunt gone wrong landed her [Stephanie Conway (Rebel Wilson)] in a 20-year coma. Now she's 37, newly awake and ready to live out her high school dream: becoming prom queen."

The young Stephanie Conway, a high school senior, was played by Angourie Rice who shared, minutes into the movie, that Deanna Russo's "perfect husband" had a "famously girthy dong". (Deanna was Stephanie's idol due to Deanna being a Harding High cheer captain and prom queen in 1995.)

Moments later, Stephanie informed her friend that the she kept a sock in her Volkswagen that she used to give Blaine, her boyfriend, teen "handies". Stephanie, "[...] I need that sock back. It's Blaine's. We use it for handies."

Later, Stephanie related that during her prom night after party, she planned to lose her, "[...] bottom half virginity to Blaine" in the "VIP, VIP section" that she reserved "For [teen] boning".

Subsequently, Stephanie (Rebel Wilson) instructed two Harding High students on how to become popular - one of which was to have anal sex

"There's only, like, three ways to become popular: to be a cheerleader, to work at Abercrombie or to let guys go in the back door." 

Unsurprisingly, one of the high school students replied, "Oh my G_d, I must be really popular then."

And not one to shy away from offering (unsolicited) advice, Stephanie (Rebel Wilson) informed the same students about how to get over their fear of someone's dad, which was to perform oral sex on the dad(dy)Unsurprisingly, one of the high school students replied, "Good to know."

Janet (Avantika)

Interestingly, after Janet, who was played by 16-year-old Disney star Avantika, pleaded with Stephanie, "Don't blow my dad," the director, taking advantage of the allure of a nymphet, had Janet twerk in her cheerleading uniform in front of the students, teachers and staff of Harding High. Later, a dancing Janet asked a friend to film her before the nymphet screamed, "Suck my vulva!" into the iPhone's camera.

Lastly, Daniel M. Kimmel of North Shore Movies gave Senior Year a 4 out of 5 on Rotten Tomatoes and opined: "...a fast and funny take on how much high school has changed – and not changed – over the last two decades." And we remember Angourie Rice from Mare  Easttown were Mare posited, "Trust me. Teenage girls are fucking sneaky."

Friday, August 19, 2022

Wendy C. Ortiz’s EXCAVATION: A Schoolgirl-Teacher Sexual Affair Memoir

Wendy C. Ortiz’s Excavation, a student-teacher sexual affair memoir, is an anomaly in that in the previous age-gap memoirs we’ve recapped, the memoirists shared that they had to be convinced that they had been groomed and victimized. However, Wendy doesn’t purport to being groomed or victimized by her teacher. 

And Paul Lisicky blurbed: “It’s rare to meet a memoirist who can write about the darkest things without judgment and emotional simplification.” And Cari Luna blurbed: “Ortiz is a fearless and generous storyteller, peeling back the layers of memory [i.e., “handwritten, detailed journals”] [...] never slipping into the easy traps of sentimentality or self pity.”

The affair began in September of 1986 in Wendy’s advanced 8th grade English class. Wendy described Mr. Ivers, her English teacher, as well-dressed, an easy talker but with a booming voice and with a “thick hand”. Attracted and finding herself on the edge of her seat, Wendy decided to “display a disinterest”; however, she let her “[...] knees splay out just enough to suggest a hint of the “unladylike” [...]”

Later Wendy shared: “Looking at Mr. Ivers, I felt a tickle in my groin. I bit my lip [...]”

Days after the first day of school and after Wendy informed Mr. Ivers that she was writing a novel: “[...] where people are, you know, making out, doing more than that, you know”, he asked for a copy of the novel and had her call him at home to talk about the book.

Of their first conversation, Wendy wrote that her English teacher revealed that he had a “huge crush” on her and that he wondered what it would be like “[...] to have his face between [...]” her legs!

My teacher was revealing to me, admitting to me, that he had a huge crush on me.

He said he wondered what it would be like to have his face between my legs, and I crossed my legs hard [...] I found myself enjoying the way he growled these desires in my ear. 

[Note: Unsurprising to us, 28-year-old Mr. Ivers wasn’t 13-year-old Wendy’s first age-gap affair. She had “weekend romps” with a tall and cute 20-year-old in his El Camino and behind a L.A. mall.]

Interestingly, and like a confession straight out of My Secret Garden: Women’s Sexual Fantasies, Wendy confessed that at 13-years-old, behind her: 

“[...] closed bedroom door, [she] pressed against the yellow carpeted floor, panting and writhing [...] humping the carpet with nude women etched in my mind’s eye [...] a deep intake of breath to withhold the revelatory sigh so it did not travel [...]” 

In addition, she masturbated to images of men. And images of men and women having: “[...] some adolescent, groping version of sex [...]” 

16-Year-old Wendy C. Ortiz (1989) |
Souce: @WendyCOrtiz/Twitter

And in another confession straight out of My Secret Garden, Wendy confessed that, before she turned 13, her hobby was “making out with girls” - in her bedroom closet. 

Futhermore, before Wendy even met Mr. Ivers, she said that on her first day at Oakcrest Junior High, her first “intrigue” was “male teachers”. Her second intrigue? The 9th grade nymphets who looked like seniors with: “[...] haughty expressions on heavily lipsticked and rouged faces.”

Consequently, during class, among other “fantasies”, Wendy had a “secret impulse” to remove Mr. Ivers’ tie. Wendy’s impulses continued after school where she let her: “[...] eyes glance over the front of his sweats, wondering about the state of his penis, trying to imagine exactly what it looked like [...]” 

And Wendy desired to stand close enough to her teacher: “[...] close enough to hook up with the energy flow, the unspoken promise of sex [...]”, which they had for about six years that was peppered with Wendy face down on her carpet rubbing herself to a “[...] soaring, bitter climax.” 

Like a report straight out of a Daily Mail piece, while Wendy’s mother was working, Mr. Ivers would come to Wendy's place in North Hollywood. On “most Saturdays”, Wendy would take the bus to her teacher’s place in Pasadena. And sometimes Mr. Ivers would pick up Wendy, clad in her Catholic schoolgirl uniform, for a rendezvous in his green Porsche where she eventually had her first non-autoerotic orgasm. [Note: They stopped using condoms after Wendy turned 16.]

16-Year-old Wendy C. Ortiz (1989) | 
Souce: @WendyCOrtiz/Twitter

Mr. Ivers even had girlfriends during the affair: “His girlfriend, me, him: a sick triangle that she wasn’t completely aware of.” The “completely” is in reference to the fact that Wendy often met Mr. Ivers’ girlfriends. And 14-year-old Wendy had a boyfriend too - 17-year-old Nicholas. They had teen sex “often without condoms” and often outdoors (e.g., “[...] late night trysts in public parks, or cars [....] anywhere my clothes might find a temporary place to land [...]”)

Like with every age-gap memoir we’ve recapped, Excavation has only one, but consequential, (seeming) contradiction. After writing, in terms of student-teacher affairs, that she “[...] gets it. Like viscerally” and after she re-confessed her own student-teacher fantasies that were “fueled” by her teacher, of whom she wrote: “[...] the hold, the power I have over this person [...]”,  Wendy went on to puzzlingly imply that she would not have had a six-year affair with her teacher if it weren’t for the “tragic power dynamic”. But in the chapter “WHY I DIDN’T TELL”, she listed “I wanted power” among the reasons for not exposing her affair with her teacher. 

I didn’t want to be average.
I didn’t want it to end.
I wanted sex. 
I wanted to be the focal point of someone’s world.
I wanted power.
I wanted love. 

In the end, the student-teacher affair ended amiably.

“I love you.” [Mr. Ivers said.]
“I love you,” I [Wendy] repeated back. 

Tuesday, August 9, 2022

Famous Age-Gap Couple: Demi Lovato (17) & Wilmer Valderrama (29) | Teen Love at First Sight

Deirdre Simonds reported for the Daily Mail that: "[...] Demi Lovato shades ex Wilmer Valderrama over their 12-year age gap - and fact she was only 17 when they started dating [...] "

In the song, which is on Lovato's Holy Fvck, she reminds the listener that Valderrama was 29 and she was, thereby, 17 when their age-gap affair, "teenage dream", and "fantasy" began.

'Finally 29 / Funny, just like you were you at the time / Thought it was a teenage dream / Just a fantasy / But was it yours or was it mine?' 

Subsequent lyrics raises some questions. For example, is Lovato implying that she was "Far from innocent" or Valderrama? And by asking "what the f**k's consent?", is she implying that her age-gap relationship with Valderrama was not consensual? But she did make it clear that Valderrama was not able to resist the allure of a nymphet.

'Just five years of bleeders, student and a teacher / Far from innocent / what the f**k's consent? / Numbers told you not to / but that didn't stop you' 

Wilmer Valderrama (29) & Demi Lovato (18) | 2011

However, in Lovato's documentary Simply Complicated that premiered approximately five years ago in 2017, she shared that after seeing 29-year-old Valderrama for the first time, she confessed, "I love this man [...] I have to have him!". 

“[When] I laid eyes on him for the first time, I was in hair and makeup and he came in and sat down and I was like ‘I love this man’ and ‘I have to have him.'” 

And in the lyrics of the song (Numbers told you not to / but that didn't stop you'), Lovato implied that Valderrama did not wait until she turned 18, but in the documentary, she related that he did wait.

“But I was only 17, so he was like, ‘Get away from me.’

“After I turned 18, we began dating,” she continued. “I think it was love at first sight, and I don’t really believe in that, but I believe that it happened.”

Despite Lovato's seeming contradictions, which are seemingly found in most age-gap memoirs, the famous age-gap relationship lasted six years. #confused

Sunday, August 7, 2022

Karen of MEAN GIRLS (2004): "My [Teen] Breasts Can Always Tell When It's Gonna Rain."

Jake Viswanath posted on Bustle "Amanda Seyfried Reflects On Mean Girls & 'Gross' Remarks That Men Made After It" (May 11, 2022)

In Mean Girls (2004), Seyfried played Karen Smith, a 16-year-old North Shore High student, who could tell when it was raining due to a feeling in her fountains

While squeezing her breasts, Karen Smith shared, "My breasts can always tell when it's gonna rain." Consequently, Karen was given the role of the school's weatherwoman and reported, "Hi. This is Karen Smith. It's 68 degrees." And as she massaged her right and then left breast, she reported, "And there's a 30 percent chance that it's already raining."

But Viswanath wrote that Seyfried said that some fans took the joke that Tina Fey wrote "too far in real life":

Karen Smith from Mean Girls is a bonafide meteorologist icon, but sometimes, fans took the joke too far in real life. Amanda Seyfried, who played Karen, just revealed how male fans would often ask her if it was raining after the premiere of Mean Girls in 2004 [...] Fans’ references to the joke often crossed a line into catcalling, especially given Seyfried’s age at the time. “I always felt really grossed out by that,” Seyfried told Marie Claire in an interview published on May 11. “I was like 18 years old. It was just gross.”

We agree with Seyfried that catcalling is inappropriate, but we were surprised that she mentioned that she was 18 when the catcalling occured. Is she implying that if she were 21, the catcalling would have been (more) appropriate? We're very confident that Seyfried would agree that being catcalled at any age is inappropriate. But that still begs the question: "Why did Seyfried mention that she was 18 when the catcalling occured? #confused However, it appears that it's safe to assume that Seyfried does not condone teen sex work. (e.g., 18-year-old Sami, Denise Richards and Charlie Sheen's daughter, joining OnlyFans.")

And to add to our confusion, Seyfried had nothing but nice words to say about Mark Waters, whom directed Seyfried to massage her teen breasts, and Tina Fey, whom wrote Seyfried's lascivious lines. Seyfried said that Waters made her "look good" and that Fey "[...] wrote the coolest script of all time."

Despite the gross comments she received, Seyfried has only positive memories from filming Mean Girls, the movie that put her on the map, even calling it her “best work” in 2013 [...] it was written so well and so wonderfully directed. Mark Waters (the director) made me look good, he made me funny. And Tina Fey wrote the coolest script of all time. I’m so grateful for every experience.”

The irony. And there were a number of other lascivious lines, scenes and subplots in the film, which we'll compile in a separate post. For example, Karen shared: "I can put my whole fist in my mouth! Wanna see?" But the most relevant subplot to this blog is the love triangle between coach Carr and two Asian schoolgirls - Trang Pak and Sun Jin Dinh whom fought over coach Carr in the hallway of North Shore High.

Tuesday, July 26, 2022

THE BEAUTIFUL PERSON (2008): A French Teen Student-Teacher Sexual Affair

The Beautiful Person (2008) [La belle personne] is about a French love triangle between Mr. Jacques Nemours (Louis Garrel) - a lycée [i.e., high school] teacher. Junie (Léa Seydoux) - a 16-year-old transfer student. And Otto - Junie’s boyfriend. 

In addition, Mr. Nemours is having an affair with Marie, a redhead student, whom tells her boyfriend, “I’m not coming with you tonight,” before she arrived, unannounced to Mr. Nemours’ apartment building. 
Mr. Nemours: “Why are you here?”
Marie: “Guess. Can I come up?”

Marie’s teacher doesn’t allow her to “come up” - this time. (Previously, they had teacher-student sex four “quick” times.) However, Mr. Nemours informed Marie that he wanted to end their age-gap affair. 
“Please just leave.”
“You’re ashamed of me. That’s the truth, you’re ashamed.”
“No. I’m not ashamed. I just want our relationship to stop here. I’m breaking it off.”
“Four quick fucks! You call that a relationship?”
“Fine then. You screwed a teacher.”
“Why are you lying to me? Why not say there’s someone else? Who’s next in line?”
But there is someone else. You guessed it. Junie - the new brunette student. Consequently, before Mr. Nemours kissed Marie on the cheek, he said, “Go on. It doesn’t mean we have to be enemies. OK?” To which Marie replied, “[B]ut it’s very painful to leave you, sir.”

Two interesting conversations about age-gap slash teacher-student affairs took place in a café. After noticing that Mr. Nemours was admiring a photograph of Junie, the propriétaire said, “Young girls ought to be respected.” To which Mr. Nemours replied, “Loving them isn’t disrespecting them.” 


And in a conversation between Mr. Nemours and a math teacher, the math teacher warned, “You shouldn’t fool around with students. It’s too easy.” But Mr. Nemours replied that it wasn’t easy, that he was “love-sick” for Junie, but that Junie couldn’t resist loving him too. 


[Note: The math teacher’s stance that it’s “too easy” to “fool around with students” could be misleading, because in the majority of non-fiction and fiction teacher-student relationships, it’s only “too easy” if the student is initially attracted to her teacher. And this attraction is very often attained without any grooming on the part of the teacher, because, we would argue, most teachers don’t have the audacity or know-how to groom a student; however, admittedly, most teachers, to their often ultimate dismay, do not have the ability to resist the allure of a nymphet. Hence, the plethora of age-gap and student-teacher relationships in fiction and non-fiction. Concepción de León wrote in her New York Times review of Art of Love (2022): “And the film reinforces the fiction that it is often younger women [students] who seduce older men [professors] and not the other way around.” But de León has it (mostly) wrong and the film has it (mostly) right. Thus, Mr. Nemours is an anomaly.]
Mr. Nemours said, “It’s not easy with her. You’ve got no idea […] I’m in a total love-sick mess […] I’m just head-over-heels in love […] I know I’ve got to calm down, get a grip, but I can’t. I just can’t […] That girl will never love me. I’m lying to myself. She can’t not love me.”
Mr. Nemours’ pua technique of assumed attraction was correct, because Junie informed Otto that she was “fleeing” the lycée to avoid falling in love [with Mr. Nemours].
“I’m going away to protect myself from someone here. The truth is, I’m fleeing.” 
“Someone you’re in love with?”
“Someone I don’t want to love […] I’m going away not to fall in love. I respect you Otto. I’m telling you that because I care for you.”
“You care for me but love another.”
Subsequently, to appease Otto, Junie let him massage and kiss her bare fountains - behind the lycée. But Otto was determined to find out Junie’s love interest; so, he asked a classmate to be a spy. And the spy discovered and reported to Otto that Junie’s love interest was Mr. Nemours. Consequently, Otto committed suicide. #smh

In the end, Junie informed her “handsome” teacher that she feared having an affair with him, because she couldn’t “survive” if he left her “to love another”.
“If I give myself to you, you’ll go off […] I’m not a fool. You’re handsome. Everyone likes you […] one day, you’ll leave to love another that you will find more pleasing. And I won’t survive. Not to mention the jealousy. “

“It won’t work Junie. You can’t hold out against our love.” 
And knowing that Mr. Nemours was correct about her not being able to resist their teacher-student love, Junie left Paris. 

The Beautiful Person (2008)  was based on the novel La Princesse de Clèves (1678). And Léa Seydoux won the Best Actress category at the Festival International du Film Francophone de Namur and the Female Revelation of the Year Trophée Chopard Award for her role in the award nominated film.

Sunday, July 24, 2022

Famous Age-Gap Couples: Suede Brooks, Drake & Scott Disick

Eileen Reslen reported for Page Six that "Drake goes ‘yacht hopping’ with YouTuber Suede Brooks in St. Tropez" (July 20, 2022). Reslen's report is relevant, because Drake is 35 and Brooks is 21.

Suede Brooks' TikToks

And per Leah Sarnoff‍'s Entertainment Tonight post "Drake and YouTube Star Suede Brooks 'Having Fun Together' Amid St. Tropez Trip" (July 20, 2022): "They are sweet, whispering in each other's ears and laughing." Aww...


But Drake and Brooks have age-gap associations from the past. For example, in 2018, 31-year-old Drake reportedly dated 18-year-old Bella Harris. 

Marissa G. Muller asked for W Magazine "Who is Bella Harris, Drake’s Rumored New Girlfriend?" In the piece, Muller wrote that: "Drake has a new love interest, but she’s not yet old enough to try his Virginia Black whiskey [...] Who is she? Harris, 18 years old, has known Drake for at least two years." That's correct. The age-gap couple met, when Harris was 16, but didn't, reportedly, start dating until a few months after she graduated from high school. 


And speaking of 16-year-old nymphets, the last time we wrote about YouTuber Brooks, we learned from the Daily Mail that "Scott Disick, 34, keeps his head down as he parties in NYC with teens Suede Brooks, 16 [...]" That's correct. 16-year-old Brooks, along with 18-year-old Madison Beer and 19-year-old Delilah Hamlin, was partying in the Big Apple with the 34-year-old Disick - an open famous ephebophile

Interestingly, like Leonardo DiCaprio, neither Drake nor Disick have received widespread backlash for their inabilities to (openly) resist the allure of nymphets. Why? Well, one reason may be that they all similar vibes that exudes that they're, like Hef, unapologetic about their age-gap relationships. 

Wednesday, July 6, 2022

Tao Lin’s RICHARD YATES: A Teen Age-Gap Sexual Affair | Illegal in NY Yet Legal In NJ


Here’s Amazon’s synopsis of Tao Lin’s Richard Yates:

[...] cult favorite Tao Lin presents a dark and brooding tale of illicit love that is his most sophisticated and mesmerizing writing yet.


Richard Yates is named after real-life writer Richard Yates, but it has nothing to do with him. Instead, it tracks the rise and fall of an illicit affair between a very young writer and his even younger--in fact, under-aged--lover. As he seeks to balance work and love, she becomes more and more self-destructive in a play for his undivided attention. His guilt and anger builds in response until they find themselves hurtling out of control and afraid to let go.


In the novel, to assure her mother that 22-year-old Haley Joel Osment (HJO) wasn’t a “creep” and that he wasn’t going to rape her, 16-year-old Dakota Fanning (DF) informed her mother that HJO was a New York University graduate and that he was an “autistic vegan”. Interestingly, DF’s mother assumed that HJO was: “[...] like 35 or something.”


Subsequently, to arrange their first encounter, DF informed HJO, via Gmail chat, that she was going on a field trip to a museum in Manhattan where he: “[...] could find her and sit by her and they could eat together.”


To visit DF, HJO had to take a 10 minute train ride from Penn Station to Secaucus. Then a two hour train ride from Secaucus to DF’s town where the age-of-consent was 16.


With fifty minutes to go before HJO’s return train was scheduled to depart, DF suggested that, instead of going back to Manhattan,: “[...] he could hide in her room. “Your mom,” said Haley Joel Osmet. Dakota Fanning said her mom wouldn’t know.”


HJP was reassured after he remembered that: “Dakota said she sleeps naked and her mother is afraid of seeing her naked and so never opens her door at night.” And DF had previous age-gap relationships (e.g., “[...] with a 26-year-old and a 28-year-old.”). She even ran away to Philly to be with a man.


They didn’t have sex that first night, but they kissed:


“Around 2:00 a.m. their heads and bodies were under blankets with their lips touching but not kissing. Haley Joel Osment stared at Dakota Fanning’s face. After a few minutes she kissed him with dry lips. He licked her lips and kissed her[...]”


Unsurprisingly, HJO returned a week later where, on her mother’s king size bed, DF performed oral sex on HJO. 


For their next age-gap rendezvous, DF skipped school and traveled to Manhattan where: “[...] they walked to Union Square and went to bookstores and ate at Whole Foods.” But on DF’s subsequent visit, she stayed the night at HJP’s three-person apartment on Wall Street where they had sex after DF suggested that HJP “Just pull out,” because “[...] she could only get pregnant at certain times.”


Interestingly, in a scene that feminists would consider counterintuitive, DF informed HJO, “I’m going to rape you” and sat on him and began to rape him and then they had sex.”


And that’s the essence of the novel, HJO and DF watched independent films like at the Angelika Film Center, they stole books from Barnes & Noble, they stole clothes from American Apparel, they ate porridge at restaurants on the LES, and they had sex in Manhattan, where it was illegal, and they had sex in New Jersey, where it was legal - sometimes outdoors and (eventually) with the consent of DF’s mother. 


Tao Lin (≈ 23) and Ellen Kennedy (≈ 17) | Circa 2006

Lastly, Tao Lin’s Richard Yates (2010) is an autobiographical novel. Consequently, per Jezebel, in 2014 and approximately nine years after their age-gap affair, DF (Ellen Kennedy) accused Lin of statutory rape and verbal abuse.


Wait, it turns out that Ellen's a writer too. Here's an excerpt from "i like every time we have sex". The piece was posted on 3:AM Magazine (March 27th, 2007) and it appears that Ellen wrote "i like every time we have sex" when she was approximately 18.



Saturday, June 25, 2022

NEW YORK's "Canceled at 17": Should Teen Girls Avoid Sexting?



In Elizabeth Weil's, seemingly viral, New York cover story "Canceled at 17: When kids make mistakes, and classmates never forgive", Weil profiled 17-year-old Diego whom was "cancelled" by a number of his "elite performing arts high school in San Francisco" schoolmates after he "showed a nude of [Fiona] his beautiful girlfriend to a few kids". 

To the dismay of some of the article's commenters, this is how Weil described Fiona:
Fiona was Diego’s first real girlfriend, and she was almost psychedelically beautiful: pale, celestial skin, a whole galaxy of freckles, a supernova of lush hair. 

It appears that the readers of the Weil's cover story are mostly divided between team Diego and team Fiona. Team Diego are of the opinion that Diego made a regrettable mistake by sharing Fiona's nude, and, at the risk of being blamed for "victim blaming", team Diego advised Fiona to avoid taking nudes in the future. 

Team Fiona are of the stance that Weil's article is too forgiving of Diego, Diego is an abuser, and, despite the fact that Fiona's teen nude was produced with her full consent, Fiona was victimized

However, per Diego, he had the following conversation with Fiona where she said that Diego was not an abuser:

Diego, "I don’t appreciate getting treated like an abuser."
Fiona "I don’t think you’re an abuser at all. I know that."
Weil: "But this had grown way beyond them."

Consequently, wanderfranco113513 commented: 

Even Fiona told him she knew he was not an abuser" Half the people commenting did not even read this. Or at least chose to ignore it. Probably the most important part of the article

Still, some commenters suggested that Diego committed a sexual offence and that he distributed child porn, but, unlike mrs.danvers, not a lot of commenters suggested that Fiona should be charged with producing child porn too - thereby, avoiding being accused of "victim blaming":

mrs.danvers: I fail to see why the police have any call to involve themselves, he didn't commit a crime. I've heard some in this thread suggest that the photos was "child porn" but that seems rather a stretch. Who would the cops arrest-- Diego, for possessing alleged child porn; or Fiona, for creating alleged child porn?

In agreement with most orthodox Jews and Muslims, crissiegirld suggested that teen girls should "forcefully resist" sexting, and mjg suggested "single sex schools":
crissiegirld: But altho the boys who share nude photos of girls are certainly jerks, they couldn’t do that if the girls hadn’t agreed to have the photos taken in the first place. Isn’t it a better idea for teens to forcefully resist the taking of intimate photos? 

mjg: But I would posit that sending kids to single sex schools and not getting them phones until they're much older would prevent many cases like this one. 
However, kundalina disagreed with crissiegirl and opined that teen girls should not be discouraged from sexting.  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
kundalina: Yes let’s keep insisting girls simply forcefully resist their own abuse in a culture that continues to excuse their assault, exploitation and oppression 

Interestingly, paisleypie commented: "Teen sexting. What else is new?" And if you read this blog and/or our books, you'll know that paisleypie's correct. For example, we wrote a post about Lily Puckett's Teen Vogue article "How to Sext: The Best Tips and Tricks" (APRIL 13, 2017)

Relatedly, Weil wrote that a group of students at Oakland School for the Arts had been swapping nudes of coeds, it was shared in the comments that castrozb28's "17 year old son gets unsolicited nude photos in his DM‘s several times a week", and rsladester caught her 7th grader attempting to take a "quasi-nood" for her BF. [Emphasis added]

oasisgirl girl even opined that Fiona will "likely send nudes to guys in the future":
oasisgirl: What’s interesting is that he [Diego] will never do what he did ever again because he’s been so traumatized. She however will more than likely send nudes to guys in the future and tell him “please don’t share these pics with anyone. Someone did that to me once and it really sucked” 
In the end, k2maj5 may have summed it up best: "Started with a nude photo. Don’t all these incidents go back to photos and social media. HELLO? Very long article just to warn my kids 'don’t take nude photos'"