Saturday, March 10, 2018

Erica Garza's GETTING OFF: A Teen Addicted to Masturbation and Porn

Erica Garza's Getting Off is a memoir about Garza's addiction to pornography that began when she was 12-years-old. I read about Getting Off in New York magazine. Or was it the New York Times? Or was it The Daily Mail? I can't remember, but here's a summary of the relevant first four chapters. 

In the prelude of Getting Off, Garza, who grew up in “boring” Southeast LA, shared that after she had sex with Clay, she gave herself: “[…] two orgasms in the wet spot of the bed. Once, to a three-minute clip of a teenage cheerleader fucking her stepdad on the kitchen counter while her mom showers upstairs […]. 

In the introduction, Garza wrote that “incestuous cheerleaders” was one of her preferred genres of porn.  And that she would masturbate in her closet “for hours”. “From watching soft-core on cable TV at twelve [12], to downloading photos at a snail’s pace on AOL at fourteen [14], to tuning in to streaming sites with broadband forever after […]”

A footnote in the introduction related from the BBC that a 2015 survey given to seven hundred youngsters, ages 12 to 13, revealed: “[…] that 12 percent of those surveyed said they had taken part in, or had made, a sexually explicit video.”

In chapter one, Garza wrote that as a 5th grader, she stared at her teacher's "crotch": 

“There seemed to be no one I didn’t find attractive in my fifth-grade class […] even our teacher, Mr. Rivera. In class, I’d stare at Mr. Rivera’s crotch, trying to imagine what he looked like under his clothes. I stared at my female teachers’ breasts and long legs […]”.

This was when Garza was approximately ten-years-old and during her pre-pubertal period. (She got her first period at the start of high school and considered herself a “late bloomer”.) I beg to differ.

In chapter two, Garza learned about masturbation from listening to Dr. Drew’s Loveline radio show:

“[I]t was Loveline that first introduced me to masturbation, which would soon become my primary method of acting out. I was twelve years old when a caller fascinated with water faucets—a woman—called in and gave me an outlet for all my pent-up sexual frustration […] She said all she had to do was sit in the bathtub, spread her legs, and turn on the water faucet. I could do that.” 

“I remember the chill on my dry kneecaps, pressed up against the cold walls of the bathtub while the steady stream of warm water plummeted to that untouched space between my legs […] And, catastrophically, I remember the pleasure […] Should I do it again? Yes. Absolutely. Of course I did it again. And again […] I hadn’t even gotten my period yet.” 

“Throughout the rest of my years in junior high […] I masturbated. Not just reserved for the bathtub anymore, I masturbated when I got home from school, before dinner, after dinner, and soon found that I couldn’t even fall asleep without an orgasm.” 

Eventually, Garza masturbated to porn:

"I started staying up late, when my mom and dad were snoring away in oblivion, to watch soft-core porn on Cinemax […]"

"[And] [d]uring the day, I made other arrangements. I’d wait for Gabe [Garza’s brother] to leave the house and then I’d raid his stash […] Dirty magazines. Unlabeled VHS tapes. I masturbated every day, multiple times a day, until I was exhausted and sore.” 

In chapter three, Garza shared:

My online sexual proclivities began with chat-room encounters when I was thirteen […] I always lied about my age, usually saying I was sixteen, which neither the twenty- nor forty-five-years old minded.

Garza even left class to masturbate during high school:

"My private high school was a fetishist’s dream. With its plaid skirts, knee-high socks, nuns in habits, and a pervading atmosphere of innocence and sexual repression [...] When I found this pressure [of studying] was too much, I excused myself from class for a bathroom break. Masturbating in the school bathroom required all the usual sensations of control I’d grown used to. I had to be quiet if another girl was in the next stall. I had to keep my feet relaxed and still on the bathroom floor. And I had to be sure to achieve orgasm quickly, to avoid raising suspicions. I’d emerge from the bathroom sickened with myself but light-headed with pleasure. Were other girls doing this? I couldn’t know for sure."

Sixteen-year-old Garza found a copy of Tommy Lee and Pamela Anderson sex tape in her brother’s drawer that she described as “my most exciting and equally debilitating discoveries, which she watched with Monica, her brother’s “first serious girlfriend.”

Continuing to chapter four, Garza wrote that she had her first (lipstick lesbian) kiss in bed with her brother's girlfriend:

"When my feelings got unbearable so that I had to look down [from watching the sex tape] to keep from soaking through my pants, Monica said, abruptly, “You know, if you were a man, I’d choose you over your brother.” Subsequently, Monica “[...] leaned in and softly kissed me on the mouth with her full lips. My first kiss. I froze. “Kiss me back,” she said, pulling her face away from mine."

After streaming porn became available, Garza’s lust: “[...] gravitated to categories like cheerleaders, schoolgirls, and teens [and] to lesbian scenes, which were equally exciting regardless of the age of the actresses.”

Ultimately, Garza lost her virginity during her senior year of high school in the Angel Inn motel to Roberto, who was older than Garza by “at least a decade”. They “[...] continued sleeping together through the end of high school [...]”

Tuesday, March 6, 2018

France to Increase Age-of-Consent to 15

Jason Rezaian of the Washington Post reported that France plans to increase the age-of-consent to 15 after two men were not charged with rape after having consensual sex with two 11-year-old nymphets. Rezaian reported:

"A French court acquitted a 30-year-old man of rape in November, concluding that the 11-year-old girl had not experienced “constraint, threat, violence or surprise” during the sex act, which is how France had previously defined rape."

"In a similar case, a 28-year-old man was charged with sex with a minor, because it was concluded that the victim was not physically forced to have sex. That girl also was 11."

The BBC reported that France: "[...] had been discussing whether to set the age as 13 or 15, which is what groups fighting violence against children had campaigned for."

The BBC listed the age-of-consent for various European countries:
  • 14 years old: Austria, Germany, Hungary, Italy, Portugal
  • 15: Greece, Poland, Sweden
  • 16: Belgium, the Netherlands, Spain, Russia [UK]
  • 17: Cyprus

Friday, February 23, 2018

Russ' “America is Hard to See”: A Play on "Innocent Nymphets"

I read Collins-Hughes’ intriguiing review of “America is Hard to See” in the New York Times. Consequently, I saw the play at the Here arts space. Collins-Hughes summarizes the “piece of documentary theater” that she describes as “smart and troubling”:

“A group of ex-cons in a therapy session introduce themselves, outlining the crimes that landed them in prison.”
“A bearded guy, Thomas, says he fondled his step-granddaughter for a year and a half before he was stopped. Chris, a fresh-faced 22-year-old, says his girlfriend turned out to be 14. And Chad, a handsome [gay] man with haunted eyes, a soft drawl and an aw-shucks charm, says he used to be a teacher. He would rather not go into details, but he molested one of his students.”

Travis Russ, the playwright and director, relates in the programme: “Every character in this play is based on a real person. The script is based on interview transcripts and archival research documents.”

Russ conducted the interviews at the Miracle Village Ministries. The Florida institution’s website states: “Our staff has years of experience providing help and hope to registered sex offenders who have served their time and would like to rejoin society.”

There were several issues that I noted as I watched the performance:

1. Both of the heterosexual affairs were consensual but, as usual, only the men went to jail. For example, Thomas’ 12-year-old step-granddaughter initiated the affair by sitting on his lap in a bath robe before she put her hand on his penis, but she didn’t go to jail as well.

And Chris passed a polygraph test stating that he didn’t know that his girlfriend was 14-years-old. She lied about her age, but she didn’t go to jail and have to undergo years of counseling at Miracle Village Ministries.

2. Ironically, Miracle Village Ministries’ mission is to prevent ephebophiles from having relationships with nymphets, but nympholepsy is condoned in the three major religions. For instance, per the documentary Are All Men Pedophiles? (2013), Mary was 12 or 15-years-old when she gave birth to Jesus and Muhammed (صلى الله عليه وسلم), the prophet of Islam, married Aisha when she was 6-years-old but consummated the marriage when she was 9. One would think that the Miracle Village Ministries’ mission would be to prevent pre-marital sex.

3. Lastly, Thomas and Chris didn’t have trouble getting into relationships despite their humbling pasts. For example, as Collins-Hughes related: “Pastor Patti introduces her college-student daughter (Gareth Tidball) to Chris, and they fall in love.” 

That reminded me of Academy Award nominated film director Roman Polanski who shared in his autobiography: “Many women seem irresistibly attracted by notoriety, and many – especially since the Los Angeles affair – are eager to meet me.” The "Los Angeles affair" is in reference to when 44-year-old Polanski gave drugs to thirteen-year-old Samantha Geimer before he raped and sodomized her.