Saturday, January 23, 2021

Musset's GAMIANI, OR TWO NIGHTS OF EXCESS: Teen Sex, Teen Lipstick Lesbians, and Teen Bestiality

Gamiani, or Two Nights of Excess [French: Gamiani, ou deux nuits d'excès] was published in the early 19th century, allegedly, by Alfred de Musset and is thought to be based on George Sand - Musset's lover. 

Here's Wikipedia's outline:
Modeled after George Sand, this work gives us a young man named Alcide observing the Countess Gamiani and a young girl named Fanny, engaged in their lesbian bed. Having watched them and provoked by their abandonment, he reveals himself, joins them, and they spend the night alternately sharing their intimate histories and their bodies. The stories they tell include the rape of one in a monastery and the nearly fatal debauchment of another in a convent, as well as encounters with a number of animals, including an ape and a donkey.
Let's begin by discussing the ages of Fanny de Pleyel and Countess Gamiani. Alcide described Fanny as: "[...] still a child; no more than fifteen years of age?" And Gamiani was: "barely older in years [than Fanny]". In other words, Fanny and Gamiani were nymphets.

Gamiani, or Two Nights of Excess is an erotic novella and is consequently filled with teen sex, teen lipstick lesbian sex, and teen bestiality; thus, we'll do an over view.

In the opening scene, Alcide observed Countess Gamiani's seduction of Fanny:
Slithering down the bed, the beautiful Italian wrenched apart the girl's thighs and buried her face between them. Fanny resisted, but only until some cunning flick of the tongue tripped that catch which unlocks a woman's body to the invasion of pleasure. With a sob, Fanny raised her knees, spread them wide, and reached down to plunge her fingers into Gamiani's luxuriant hair.

After a ménage à trois, Gamiani and Fanny shared their beginnings:

Gamiani shared that when she was 15, her aunt led her into a "vast room" and told her to "kneel down" before a monk entered, exposed Gamian's "posterior", and whipped the nymphet with "knouts, by thongs tipped with iron points." Subsequently, Gamiani's thighs were "butted", she was "penetrated", and she "uttered a terrible scream".

Next, Fanny shared that when she was 15 she had: "[...] her first experience of divine release.":
"Overcome, transported, [virtually nude and upon a divan] I grasped a pillow, squeezed it between by thighs, took another into my arms and kissed it madly, enveloping it in passion. What pleasure. It seemed to me I was melting, that I was disintegrating. I cried aloud [...] I was wet. Wet all over. Unable to understand anything, I thought I had injured myself [...]"

Lastly, it may be worth noting the nymphet bestiality in the novella:

A black dog performed cunnilingus on Gamiani. Consequently, she was in the "paroxysms of pleasure and pain" and "screaming with each new stroke". And Sainte, the Mother Superior at Gamiani's convent: "[...] was twelve when she was rocked by intolerably fierce desires." Ergo, "[...] every night. Her untaught and inadequate fingers spoiled her youth [...]" After Sainte: "[...] clapped [her] eyes on two dogs in the act of holding amorous commerce", she inexplicably: "[...] lifted her skirt and bravely backed up to the [caged] animal, her behind aimed at the redoubtable point." 

Per Queerly Phrased: Language, Gender, and Sexuality, Gamiani, ou deux nuits d'excès was a nineteenth bestseller. 

Thursday, January 14, 2021

PREGNANCY: A Game | An [Sexually] Abused & Pregnant Hungarian Teen

Over 17 years ago, in the non-fiction section of The Central Library in Brooklyn, I picked up Seymour M. Hersh's The Dark Side of Camelot. And consequently, my research into nympholepsy in popular culture began. What was the impetus? The catalyst was one of Hersh's footnotes about Joseph P. Sr. - President John F. Kennedy's father. Here's a summary:

In 1957, Rose Kennedy invited Lyndon Johnson, who was the Senate Majority leader at the time, to their home in Florida for lunch. Lyndon Johnson naturally accepted the invitation and went to the Kennedy beachfront home with an entourage. The entourage included Bobby Baker, the Majority leader’s aide and confidant, who related, “Old Man Joe comes in [from a round of golf] with a seventeen – or eighteen-year-old girl. Doesn’t say boo. Walks right in and goes upstairs and engages in what, clearly and noisily, is sexual intercourse.” 

Over the years, I've written about nympholepsy in almost every medium (e.g., poems, novels, novellas, and Netflix series'). However, other than the Duke Nukem: Forever video game cover art, where two schoolgirls sit at the feet of Duke, I haven't written about nympholepsy in videos games - until today.

Here's the About This Game posted on Steam for Pregnancy:

'Pregnancy' is an interactive short story where the player attempts to influence the decisions of a 14 year old girl about the future of her pregnancy.

Lilla Sandor is the protagonist of 'Pregnancy'. She is a 14 year old girl who lives in Hungary. Lilla gets pregnant after being abused by a criminal and she is confused about what to do with the child she carries in her womb. The player acts as the voice of conscience influencing and guiding the young girl's decisions.

At the end of the story, see how your decisions line up with other players, inspired by games like Telltale's The Walking Dead and Atlus' Catherine.

209 out of 356 Steam reviewers "Recommended" the game. Chance, the gamer, simply opined of : "Very interesting"

Interestingly, a famous gamer was criticized on Twitter for playing Pregnant, and the Hungarian nymphet was changed from being abused, as described in the About This Game, to being raped. But "abused" is ambiguous too, because the age-of-consent in Hungary is 14-years-old. 

Thursday, January 7, 2021

JOJO'S JUICE: Sexualized Tweens, Teens and the Art of Twerking

USA Today's Cydney Henderson wrote in the post "JoJo Siwa, 17, had 'no idea' of 'inappropriate content' in kids board game(Jan 6, 2021):

"JoJo Siwa is addressing the controversial Nickelodeon board game "JoJo's Juice," which features her likeness alongside what she called "gross" and "inappropriate content."" 

"The 17-year-old "Dance Moms" alum-turned-teen Internet star took to Instagram Monday to clarify that she "had no idea of the types of questions" were included."

""JoJo's Juice," which is recommended for children aged six or older, is a trivia game that features cards from four categories: Truth or Dare, 2 Truths and a Lie, Who Knows JoJo Better? and Never Has JoJo Ever!" 

"However, the children's game has come under fire for its mature and sexualized content, including questions such as, "Have you ever walked in on someone naked or had someone walk in on you?" and "Have you ever been arrested?""

Some additional "mature and sexualized content" were: "Have you ever gone outside without underwear (a bathing suit doesn't count)?" and "Learned the art of twerking". [Emphasis added]

However, interestingly on Its JoJo Siwa, JoJo's verified YouTube channel, approximately 13-year-old JoJo taught Miranda the art of twerking. The video is titled "TEACHING MIRANDA HOW TO TWERK! -JoJo's Juice" (Oct 10, 2016), and, as of today, the video has been viewed over 32 million times. And per #blackAF's Chloe, tweens and teens twerking is the new Twist.

"TEACHING MIRANDA HOW TO TWERK! -JoJo's Juice" (Oct 10, 2016)

Per Nickelodeon and Spin Master Games, 
"JoJo's Juice" isn't being manufactured anymore, and the game doesn't appear to be listed on Amazon anymore.

Sunday, January 3, 2021

TEEN VOGUE: Teen Masturbation Stories

Similar to Nancy Friday's My Secret Garden: Women’s Sexual Fantasies, Vera Papisova's Teen Vogue post "23 Masturbation Stories: Girls Get Real About Self-Love" (AUGUST 4, 2020) is a compilation of pre-teen and teen masturbation stories.
Sarah's mom, a sex therapist, taught Sarah, the day Sarah got her period, that masturbation was Sarah's "right":
"My mom is a sex therapist, and the day I got my period, I didn’t get the sex talk. I got the masturbation talk. I’ll never forget it, because it was humiliating. She told me that my pleasure is my right, and that if I have urges, I shouldn’t be ashamed of them. It’s natural and healthy for you. She told me I shouldn’t have sex until I know exactly what my body likes, otherwise I’ll be dependent on other people to figure it out, which isn’t fair for anyone since we’re all different." - Sarah
Lindsay shared that, other than her "freaky camp friend", she wished that she knew "[...] that other girls masturbate, too!"
"I wish I knew that other girls masturbate, too! And that no matter what way you do it, it's not weird! Most girls don't open up to their friends about that stuff until college, unless you have the occasional freaky camp friend." - Lindsay

Laura related to Teen Vogue that she started masturbating as "a stress reliever" as a pre-teen - in 5th grade. (I wonder what kind of stress ~ 10-year-old Laura was going through.)

"To be honest I started masturbating pretty early in maybe the 5th grade...I think my mom figured it out and she had the sex talk with me. I was really lucky because the only thing she said about it was that it was private and OK, but that she didn't want to know about it and that I should keep it to myself. If I didn't do it, I’d get pretty fidgety...For me it was more than a sexual identity thing; it was a stress reliever." - Laura 

Ruthie "discovered" masturbation at a young about - "about 12":

"I definitely discovered masturbating at a young age. I was about 12 and knew that for whatever reason, I could touch myself in a certain spot and feel all kinds of incredible in a way I had never felt before. And I felt very confused about why, and never spoke to a friend (honestly) about masturbating until I was in college. But once I started talking about it with a few friends, it felt SO GREAT ! It felt liberating." - Ruthie 

When Maddie was in high school, she purchased a gift wrapped vibrator from Spencer's Gifts:
"When I was in high school, I went to Spencer’s Gifts at the mall and made them gift wrap a vibrator because I was too embarrassed to admit I was buying it for myself. But guess what? Female masturbation isn't embarrassing or gross, and it’s also not embarrassing or gross to have a vibrator or dildo. When you get to college, you'll actually start talking to other women about this. There’s a whole world of liberation out there." - Maddie

Emily discovered masturbation at 14 by accident via the shower head:

"The first time I masturbated it was kind of by accident. I was probably about 14, and I was in the bathtub playing around with the shower head and the water hit that area and I was like, whoa, this feels good. I definitely felt awkward about it, and didn't tell anyone about my newfound hobby [...]" - Emily 

Lastly, Sarah shared that she masturbated in the (locked) bathroom after school. (Note: Sarah did not share with Teen Vogue if this was during middle or high school.)

"I used to do it in my room after school. No one was home but my older sister, so it was the perfect opportunity. I'd lock the bedroom door and turn on music so I could have some privacy. I would have died if I ever got caught. I still would die now, for the record." -Sarah 

Like Tavi Gevinson's Rookie, we have written a number of posts based on Teen Vogue's masturbation pieces (e.g., here and here); however, unlike, Rookie, Teen Vogue hasn't, to our knowledge, written about teleiophilia

BORAT SUBSEQUENT MOVIEFILM (2020): Borat Gifts Teen Daughter to Mike Pence

Here is IMDb's vague plot summary for Borat Subsequent Moviefilm (2020):

Follow-up film to the 2006 comedy centering on the real-life adventures of a fictional Kazakh television journalist named Borat.

Rotten Tomatoes elaborated a bit:

Released from prison for bringing shame to his country, Kazakh funnyman Borat risks life and limb when he returns to America with his 15-year-old daughter.

Wikipedia did a better job than IMDb and Rotten Tomatoes:

Borat Subsequent Moviefilm: Delivery of Prodigious Bribe to American Regime for Make Benefit Once Glorious Nation of Kazakhstan [...] is a 2020 American mockumentary comedy film [...] The film stars Sacha Baron Cohen as the fictional Kazakhstani journalist and television personality Borat Sagdiyev, and Maria Bakalova as his daughter Tutar, who is to be offered as a bride to Vice President Mike Pence during the COVID-19 pandemic and the 2020 presidential election.

However, on the Culture Gabfest podcast ("New Weird America" | OCT 28, 2020), Stephen Metcalf, a critic-at-large and columnist at Slate magazine, related the most relevant, to this blog, aspect of the film:

"In this film, Borat brings his 15-year-old daughter [...] to the United States to gift her, yes, to Mike Pence - the Vice President."

Sunday, December 27, 2020

Alisson Wood's BEING LOLITA: A Dark Student-Teacher Sexual Romance

Part 1: “The Perfect Teenage Lollipop”

Being Lolita, Alisson Wood’s memoir, is choke full seeming contradictions that commences with the very first sentence on the dust jacket: “A dark romance evolves between a high schooler and her English teacher in this breathtakingly powerful memoir [...]” Wait, so, per Flatiron Books, Being Lolita is about a teacher-student romance?

However, in the very next sentence, 17-year-old Alisson goes from being a student, to a lover, to a vulnerable victim of Mr. North - her green-eyed 26-year-old Ivy League educated high school teacher. 

But the dust jacket’s description is telling, because part i of the memoir is about a “dark [teacher-student] romance”, but by parts ii and iii, Alisson went from a lover of her high school English teacher to a vulnerable victim of her high school English teacher to a lover to a victim to a lover to a victim...

Interestingly, in part i, Alisson described Mr. North as “the perfect teenage lollipop”:

“[...] the other girls thought he was so hot. His dark hair was long enough to stay behind his ears but still short enough to be appropriate for a grown-up. He had a full shadow of beard, something only a handful of senior guys could manage [...] he shopped at Abercrombie & Fitch just like the students did. The mixed signals of adult man and teenage boy in his body radiated through the air, making everything thick and quiet and warm.”

Even Alisson’s little sister opined, “He’s really cute, Ali.” “Totally.” Consequently: “There were always girls around Mr. North at school.”

In parts i and ii, Alisson wrote that the techniques Mr. North used to make her a vulnerable victim were: 1. giving her a copy of Lolita and 2. being controlling (i.e., Mr. North made Alisson keep their student-teacher age-gap affair a secret.). But Alisson confessed that she didn’t finish Lolita nor understand the novel until after she graduated from high school, and she and her high school teacher had sex. “I still hadn’t really read the whole book.”

However, Alisson never said that Mr. North’s hotness, beard, Abercrombie & Fitch shirts, and the way “his body radiated through the air, making everything thick and quiet and warm” played a factor in making her a vulnerable victim.

And apparently, his eyes didn’t play a part: “His eyes fixed on mine and I felt stunned; an animal across a meadow. My breath caught and ribs knit. He was a concoction of the accessible and forbidden, the perfect teenage lollipop.” 

Nor because he paired her with “students who struggled”. Thereby, making her feel like “an ally instead of a nerd.” “You’re the prettiest girl here, and you’re smarter than any of them.”

He was the only one who believed in her and that she could “stand up”, “collect herself” and “look poised”, but that didn’t seem to play a part. Consequently, he got her a part in the school play: “[...] no one had done anything like that for me in a long time. It was like my prince had come.” As a result, Alisson became: “[...] suddenly overwhelmed by the urge to kiss him.” But that didn’t seem to play a part. 

Alisson felt comforted by the fact that her English teacher was: “[...] risking for this, for me: his job.” “[...] he would never risk his job like this for any other girl.” And Alisson shared with her therapist: “[...] he’s nice, he spends time with me, I think he’s so smart.” But apparently none of those attributes of Mr. North played a part. 

Mr. North encouraged Alisson's writing and made her feel safe and protected. “I had never felt like that before in high school.” And he made her feel seen. “All I wanted was to be seen.” Yet, Alisson feeling safe, protected and seen played no part. 

To reiterate, Mr. North’s seductive eyes, that fact that Alisson described him as a “perfect teenage lollipop”, the fact the he made her an “ally”, and his firm belief in her, did not, per Alisson, play a role in making her a vulnerable viction - it was Lolita and being controlled (i.e., being forced to keep their student-teacher age-gap affair a secret.). 

Part 2: A Teen’s Powerful Body

No slut shamming, but Alisson was not a virgin before she had sex with Mr. North. “I had slept with all three of my serious boyfriends in high school.” And it’s worth noting that it was Mr. North’s idea that they wait to consummate their age-gap affair until after Alisson turned 18, and she graduated from Hunt high school. Wood wrote: “[...] I wanted so badly to be seen as a woman, as someone worthy of attraction. I wanted Mr. North, Nick, to want me. And I didn’t understand why we had to wait, anyway; once I turned eighteen, I didn’t understand [...]” But on page 283 Alisson wrote: “[...] I was asking for the support I desperately needed. I wasn’t asking to be fucked.”

Subsequently, in her white cap and gown, Alisson shared that all she could think about was how much she wanted her time with her teacher to start. “It was all I wanted.” Consequently, the night after graduation, Alisson went to her English teacher’s apartment, and they made love for the first time. But it wasn’t like the boys who had sex with her in the corner of the basement who: “[...] apologized for how quickly it all came and went.” 

Wood wrote that she was a beautiful 17-year-old who boys called a “Disney princess”. Yet it wasn’t until after she met Mr. North that she said: “I wasn’t suicidal anymore.” Alisson’s suicidal ideations stemmed from the fact that she felt that her body was her: “[...] only possible source of power.”, which she blamed on Britney Spears, Christina Aguilera, MTV, Fiona Apple, Abercrombie & Fitch, and Victoria’s Secret. 

However, Alisson used the power of her body on her English teacher. Alisson shared that she knew that she had power over Mr. North but that she wanted the power of sex and the safety of childhood: “[...] my breasts, all of the things that shifted the way men looked at me. If this was power [...] I wanted the safety of childhood and the power of sex. I wanted it all, in my life and in my body.” 

Consequently, while Mr. North was teaching, Alisson learned over while on her knees with her back to Mr. North so that she could share her black lace underwear and a strip of skin with her English teacher. After the bell rang, Alisson arched her back, sat up slowly, and tossed her long black hair. “This must be what power feels like.” 

In addition to her nubile body, Alisson came to the realization that she had an additional power over her teacher. After Mr. North reminded Alisson that she could go to the principal and get him “[...] fired in a minute.” Alisson wrote: “It was interactions like these that made me think I had power in the relationship, that I wasn’t just an eighteen-year-old being manipulated by her twenty-seven-year-old teacher.”

But that didn’t stop Alisson from using the power of her young body. After she gave her English teacher a topless photo that her boyfriend, a college student, had taken when she was 17, Alisson was convinced that she had power: “I had shown him I was capable of creating desire, that I could do this, that I wasn’t just some dumb, clueless girl. This was a power I had, too, that I was his equal in all this. The wanting went both ways.” Thus, another seeming contradiction. Is Alisson espousing that she was equal in the age-gap relationship with high school English teacher and that, despite their age-gap, she wanted Mr. North as much as he wanted her or, as she espoused in parts ii and iii, was she a vulnerable victim?

Oh and by the way, Alisson shared: “I always wore short shorts and skirts because I knew he liked my naked legs.” And on another occasion, Wood shared: “I knew he was watching me. I tried to walk sexy, with a wiggle, like Jessica Rabbit. I tossed my hair as I passed through the threshold of his door. The second bell, ringing through me.”

On closing night of the school play, Alisson tried to will Mr. North to kiss her: “Kiss me just kiss me please kiss me”. He didn’t. However, during the night of the cast party, Christina, another Hunt nymphet, hugged Mr. North and, “in the darkness of the doorway”, gave him a kiss on the cheek before she turned and smiled at Alisson. And Sarah, a member of the Hunt slam team, “[...] was all over him. And he just let her flirt with him, openly." (Mr. North and Alisson weren’t the only teacher-student “romance” at Hunt high school. Mr. North shared with Alisson that a math teacher was having an affair with a girl on the softball team.) 

Alisson gave at least two examples of how her “dark romance” with her high school teacher “went both ways”. After Mr. North inappropriately shared with Alisson that he imagined her naked, Alisson wrote: “Romance and sweetness. It was then that I realized he was not like my other boyfriends.” Consequently, outside the diner and between the cars, Alisson inappropriately informed her English teacher, “I love you.” Aww. “He just smiled at me and said good night.”

And after Mr. North shockingly asked Alisson for her bra size, she shockingly said, “I’ll trade you [...] You tell me yours, I’ll tell you mine.” 32C. 7¾. Alisson wrote that she knew that asking her English teacher to share the size of his penis was seductive. She asked: “At what point does a girl turn into prey?” 

Part 3: The End of a Dark [Teacher-Student] Romance 

During her freshman year college, Alisson ended her “dark romance” with her former English teacher for two reasons. She wrote that she ended it because Mr. North was controlling (i.e., Mr. North wanted to continue to keep their “dark romance” a secret while Alisson desperately wanted an open age-gap relationship.) Alisson wrote that the relationship was “problematic and unhealthy.” And she wrote: “[...] our relationship was built on lies, that he isolated me in high school and continued to while I was in college [...]” “I was tired of being alone to hide our relationship.”

And she ended it because every time they had sex, unlike with boys, it hurt. Alisson didn’t clarify if Mr. North had a rough sex fetish or if she suffered from a degree of vaginismus. However, she did explain why she simply never told him to be gentle: “[...] it hurt the whole time, so much I made noises, but I didn’t say stop [...]” “I didn’t want to ask him to be gentle because I didn’t want him to think I was a child [...]” However, she had a secret code: “[...] moan means go, that means stop, an inhale of please, my nails were really, please stop [...]” 

Mr. North even told Alisson, “I love you so much, I’m so in love with you, I would never hurt you.” But Alisson didn’t use that as an opportunity to tell Mr. North that he did hurt her during sex. Once during sex, Mr. North even asked Alisson, “What’s wrong?” What Alisson's reply, “Nothing, I love you. Don’t stop.” 

And Alisson wrote in the latter parts of her memoir: “Now when I think about the first ten years of my life after the teacher, I see a clear impact [...] I thought it was supposed to hurt.” As you can see, this simply isn’t true. Alisson never expressed that she thought that it was supposed to hurt. Just the opposite.

Very interestingly, in part ii, Alisson wrote that she was just a child when she 17: “[...] I was a child. I was barely 110 pounds, I had been only with other teen boys, all of us children. I was eighteen [when I first had sex with my English teacher], but that didn’t matter [...]” 

Here’s Oxford Languages’ definition of child: "/CHīld/ [noun] a young human being below the age of puberty or below the legal age of majority." And I’m assuming that it’s safe to assume that Alisson doesn’t support 18-year-old porn stars who rarely do professional porn with other 18-year-olds. Or maybe Alisson only supports sensual teen porn but with a minimum weight requirement.

Alisson opened chapter 13 with: “The first thing I did when I got to college was fuck a stranger.” She described the sex with her college mate as “gentle” and painless, which appears to have erroneously solidified in her mind that non-age-gap sex equals “gentle” and age-gap sex equals “pain”. 

Alisson’s back and forths are dizzying. Another example: One page 272 she wrote, for the first time, that Mr. North had “power” over her, but on the very next page she wrote: “I still wonder if I have just exaggerated things, if I am the unreliable narrator in this story, if I truly did seduced him [...]”  But then on page 275 she wrote that she was groomed and abused: “[...] the teacher was a predator, that he spent our school year grooming me to be the perfect subject for abuse [...]” 

On page 284 Alisson wrote: “The last thing I wanted was for him to not think I was the strong, powerful, sexy woman I was [during senior year of high school].” But on the very next page, Alisson wrote: “[...] I wasn’t some powerful, sexy grown-up. I was a child being manipulated, being preyed upon. I was the victim of a predator [...]” 

And Alisson wrote that as a negative consequence of having a “dark romance” with Mr. North: “I found myself seeking out or at least choosing relationships where I was the secret - illicit affairs, married men, guys who couldn’t commit [...]” but two pages later she wrote: “I began to understand that I was making choices to get myself into these situations [...]” [Emphasis mine]

Wait, how about a non-fiction plot twist. Alisson wrote: “Three years after the relationship ended [...] I needed to see Nick’s face [...] I showed up at his apartment unannounced [...]” “I had so much I still wanted to say, that I wanted to ask him - Did he really love me then? Was I really special? [...]” 

And 23-year-old Alisson: “[...] sent Nick and an email out of the blue, asking him to get a coffee sometime [...]” They had lunch: “[...] outside, at a cute restaurant on the water.” Alisson found out that Mr. North was in a relationship that was “basically over”. She told him to call her when it was completely over. She followed up a month later with an email, but he never replied. Why did Alisson attempt to reconnect with someone whom she said took advantage of her vulnerabilities and made her a victim? She shared: “Sure it was totally fucked up, I could say, but it wasn’t rape. I wanted it as much as he did. It was never abuse abuse.” 

GIF from Who Will You Be? Written by Emily Ratajkowski & directed by Lena Dunham

Part 4: “The Wanting Went Both Ways”

29-year-old Alisson co-led a weekly “girls-only comprehensive sex education and leadership program” at the Boys & Girls Clubs of America. The girls in the program were: “[...] all seniors, seventeen and eighteen years old.” Here’s a conversation Alisson overheard:

Nicole, “Girl, it’s no big deal. I’ve had sex with three guys. Just relax and have a good time. And if you’re not having a good time, it’s your problem, because you gotta ask for what you want.” The third girl agreed, “Yes!” Alisson wrote: “[...] I was thrilled that they were talking about sex without any accompanying shame.” But “[...] [f]or all her bravado, Nicole was a child.” 

child: /CHīld/ [noun] a young human being below the age of puberty or below the legal age of majority. (Oxford Languages) Thus, I’m assuming that Alisson was implying that Nicole had the mind of a child?

After the session, Nicole helped Alisson clean up, and Nicole put a handful of condoms into the pocket of her lavender slicker. How did Alisson react? She wrote: “I offered her candy for helping me clean up. “Thank you, Miss Alisson.”

I won’t discuss the misleading and erroneous errors that Wood wrote about Lolita. Like when she wrote of Lolita leaving Humbert: “She fled, she got out. Let’s not focus yet on where she ended up.” But it’s misleading if you mention that Lolita fled from Humbert but not mention that she fled to Quilty - another much older man. But I won’t discuss that topic. 

Alisson taught an introductory undergraduate creative writing course. And guess what book she taught at the “culmination” of the semesters. You guessed it - Lolita: “[...] the only convincing love story of our century,” said Vanity Fair”. That’s correct. She taught the novel that she said her high school English teacher used for grooming. And Alisson shared in the penultimate chapter of her memoir - her final contradiction: “In many ways, I still want to be like Lolita.”

In the end, I suspect that Alisson Wood wrote Part i of Being Lolita for writer fame slash money. And that she wrote parts ii and iii to avoid being canceled, which may have been prompted by one of the over 50 people Alisson acknowledged in the acknowledgments. 

Part 5: It’s Normal for a Nymphet to Crush on her Teacher

Kaia Gerber had Alisson Wood on her Instagram Live book club (November 13, 2020). To promote the event, Geber posted a picture of Alisson’s memoir, and Kaia wrote that she read Being Lolita: [...] four times and filling the margins with endless annotations [...]” 

Before Alisson joined the live stream, Kaia said that in Being Lolita, Lolita: “[...] becomes a backdrop to their connection that blooms from like a crush into a romance and a relationship.” Thus, Kaia confirmed that Alisson had a “romance” with her English teacher. 

But then Kaia said that, via Lolita, Mr. North, “[...] convinces her that that book is a love affair when in reality it is not [...] as time kind of progresses in the book and in Alisson’s life, ‘cause it is a memoir, you see how his grip on her tightens and how the relationship quickly becomes abusive.” Wait, is Kaia implying that Alisson’s “romance” with her English was not initially abusive, but that it became abusive after they had rough sex, which was after Alission turned 18, and she graduated from high school? 

Kaia said misleadingly, “As a young woman you think you’re in control - a lot of the time. And realizing what consent is and when you can give consent. And as a minor that is something you cannot give to an adult.” I don’t know whom Kaia was referring to, because there’s no way that she was (correctly) referring to Alisson, because Alisson was not a minor when she had sex with Mr. North. In other words, there’s no state in the US that has an age-of-consent that’s higher than 18. (Note: 19-year-old Kaia was 18 when she began a romantic relationship with 26-year-old Pete Davidson.)

Remember that Alisson and Kaia related that Mr. North used Lolita to groom Alisson, but just like in the memoir, Alisson confessed that she didn’t actually read Lolita, “When I was in high school I didn’t actually [...] I didn’t really, like, carefully read Lolita. Umm, I read the parts that he read to me and, like, you know, sort of skimmed through it. And but I got bored by the second part. I was like, “This so boring and it is long [...]”

Then Kaia implied that it wasn’t Lolita but that Mr. North took advantage of Alisson’s mental issues (i.e., suicidal tendencies) to “control and abuse” Alisson. And Alisson agreed that Mr. North noticed that she had those vulnerabilities and took advantage of them, but there’s no explicit mention of that in the memoir. One could take a long stretch and make that inference, but there’s no explicit mention of that in Being Lolita. On the contrary, Allison explicitly related that Mr. North’s seduction methods were (excerpts from) Lolita, which, once again, she didn’t (fully) read, and control (i.e., Despite Alisson’s wishes, Mr. North made Allison keep their affair a secret.)

Here’s the penultimate (seeming) contradiction from the book club discussion. 

Alisson, “Oh, I didn’t want a woman. I didn’t want any reader to come away from this book thinking, “Oh, she was ruined. She was broken.”

Kaia, “And I think that’s what’s so cool. While you are the victim. You don’t victimize yourself - especially in the beginning.” 

Alisson, “I completely agree.”

But throughout the book club discussion, Alisson implied to Kaia that, as a consequence of her romance with Mr. North, she was a victim and that she had been ruined and broken. 

And now for the final (seeming) contradiction from the book club discussion. Allison confessed that it’s completely natural, totally normal, and completely developmentally and socially appropriate for a high school student to have a crush on her older teacher: 

Alisson, “That’s completely natural. It’s normal for a teenager. It’s totally normal for, like, a teenage girl to have a crush on her older teacher.” 

Kaia, “Yes.” 

Alisson, “And I was not the only one at my school to have a crush on him.”

Alisson, “It was totally normal for me to have the [sic] crush on the teacher.” 

Kaia, “Yeah.”  

Alisson, “Like that’s fine. Like, that’s completely developmentally appropriate. It’s socially appropriate.”

Lastly, in what is arguably Alisson's most pertinent statement, “Like that’s not the problem. The problem is that an adult man was like, “Hey, she’s got a crush on me, like, let me see if I can sleep with her.”

And that’s exactly what happened. Mr. North noticed that Alisson had a crush on him and, per Alisson, he correctly assumed that she inappropriately wanted to have sex with her high school English teacher, but Mr. North should have waited to begin the (non-sexual and sexual) romance after Alisson had graduated from Hunt. (Although, despite Kaia's own consensual age-gap affair, it appears that she would have (openly) objected to that scenario as well.)

Lastly, let me be absolutely clear, Mr. North should not have had an (non-sexual) affair with Alisson - his high school English student. But Alisson should not have had an affair with Mr. North - her high school English teacher. Like Alisson Wood wrote: “The wanting went both ways.”

Wednesday, December 16, 2020

[UPDATE] PRETTY LITTLE LIARS: An Acceptable High School Student & Teacher Affair?

It appears that most readers of Kate Elizabeth Russell's My Dark Vanessa and Alisson Wood's Being Lolita (openly) consider the students in these student-teacher affairs to be victims. However, I haven't heard that sentiment being directed at Aria, of the ABC Family show Pretty Little Liars, whom was involved in a student-teacher affair with Mr. Fitz - her high school English teacher. 

On the teen drama, 16-year-old Aria met Ezra at a bar, kissed him and “made out” with him in the bar’s bathroom. The next day she found out that Eric was actually Mr. Fitz, her new English teacher. Aria and Mr. Fitz continued to make out in subsequent episodes for over four seasons in places like his car and apartment. 

You may be asking yourself, “How can a television show get away with portraying a 16-year-old in a relationship with her English teacher?” The answer is easy. Pretty Little Liars was set in Pennsylvania where the age of consent is, you guessed it, 16. The writers strategically set the show in Pennsylvania, so they could legally shock its viewers.

But the question remains, why doesn't it appear that commentators such a Kaia Gerber consider Aria to be a victim and Mr. Fitz to be a predator. I would presume that it's because Mr. Fitz is considered a hot teacher. Consequently, he gets a pass. 

And if you're intrigued by the television show, you may find the novel(s) intriguing as well. 

In the beginning of chapter three of volume one of Pretty Little Liars, Hanna, who is described as the most sought-after girl at Rosewood Day high school and her best friend, Mona Vanderwaal, were sipping red wine at Rive Gauch - the French-inspired café in the King James Mall. 

While they were inconceivably enjoying their drinks and “comparing Vogue to Teen Vogue,” Hanna noticed a “fortysomething guy staring lecherously at them”. Thus, she decided it would be a good idea to have a “Lolita” moment.

“We should flash him.” Mona suggested before the teens slowly pulled up the hems of their sky-high minis and revealed their panties to the “... regular Humbert Humbert.”  

“You know that guy had a boner,” Mona presumed as the middle-aged man dashed away after he spilled his drink. 

Saturday, December 12, 2020

Famous Age-Gap Couple: Charles, Prince of Wales & Diana, Princess of Wales

Lady Diana (19) & Charles, Prince of Wales (32)
Officially Announce Engagement

It is well-know how Diana the Princess of Wales' story ends but some may not know how it began. 

Elena Nicolaou posted "The Definitive Timeline of Prince Charles and Princess Diana's Relationship: Diana met Prince Charles when she was 16" on Oprah Mag:

"According to their official engagement interview, Charles and Diana, then 29 and 16, met [in 1977] at the Spencer family home."

"Charles and Diana, then 18-and-a-half, reconnected [in 1980] during a summer weekend at a mutual friend's house. They reportedly bonded over a conversation [...] Diana recalled the awkward encounter that transpired after that conversation. “The next minute he leapt on me, practically. It was strange. I thought, ‘This isn’t very cool’...but I had nothing to go by because I’d never had a boyfriend,” Diana said."

"After that weekend, Diana and Charles went on a few dates, like to Andrew’s royal yacht or to Balmoral Castle in Scotland"

"In September 1980, Diana traveled to the northern reaches of Scotland to spend a weekend with Charles and his family at Balmoral."

"[In] February 1981: Charles, 32, and Diana, 19, officially announce their engagement."
Lady Diana (19) & Charles, Prince of Wales (32)
Officially Announce Engagement

Subsequently, 32-year-old Charles, Prince of Wales married 20-year-old Lady Diana.

The Washington Post reported that 750 million people watched the wedding on television and 600,000 Europeans ogled from the streets of London. 

Netflix's “The Crown” has propelled Diana, Princess of Wales back into the zeitgeist, but surprisingly, unlike 37-year-old Sir Scott Disick who is reportedly dating 19-year-old Amelia Hamlin, I have not read or heard any backlash against the royal age-gap. 

Thursday, November 26, 2020

Famous Age-Gap Couple: Vincent Cassel (53) & Tina Kunakey (23)


Deirdre Simonds related in the Daily Mail post: "Vincent Cassel, 53, and his wife Tina Kunakey, 23, look happier than ever as they enjoy a beach day with their daughter Amazonie, one, in Brazil":

The loved-up couple married in a private ceremony at the city hall in Bidart, south-west France, on August 2018.

Tina Kunakey (19) & Vincent Cassel (49)

They were first linked back in July 2016 when Tina, then 19, shared a social media snap of herself cuddling up to the then 49-year-old actor while smoking a cigarette.

We know Cassel from The Monk (2011) [French: Le moine] where he played a monk who was understandably very religious. Consequently, he (initially) rejected the advances of a teen who sneaked into the monastery to seduce him; however, the Monk's inhibitions were released after the nubile seductress drugged him and took his virginity. Thereafter, aggressively pursued the nymphet.