I was shocked by Jacobs' honesty about his attraction to other women besides his wife. That was profound, because I see other minorities gawking and making, mostly inappropriate, comments to women all the time and I never understood why white men never appeared to have seen those same women, unless they were drunk or construction workers.
It dawned on me after reading The Guinea Pig Diaries that it may be a class thing. After reading Jacobs' chapter on being honest I realized that educated white men actually do notice beautiful women, but it's considered impolite to take a peek or it's done very discretely.
And I would imagine that many educated minorities are the same way. For example, I can't imagine Gladwell turning around to look a girl's bottom.